Anyone had a baby at 44 or 45 yrs? What is it like?

[Hope88]

Hi I would like to know what it's like to have a baby at 44 or 45. Was it just too tiring? Did you regret it later? I am thinking about it but am really scared of sleepless nights. It really depressed me at 35 so might just push me too far at 45? Or is it not much diffirence as having a baby is always tiring???
Please tell me your story. Thank you

[zebedeethezebra]

Are you preggers? Congratulations!

I had DS a week before my 43 birthday. He is my first so I can't compare with earlier pregnancies, but I didn't have any particular problems during the pregnancy.

I don't feel particularly knackered now either and I'm 44 now. Trying for another, but its not happening

[NightLark]

I'm younger than you asked for at 40, but am finding this pregnancy (DC3) significantly more tiring than the first (at 34) or the second (at 37). But how much of that is due to having a 5 year old and a two year old is anyone's guess. Sleepless nights - well, not everyone gets that many of them (eternally hopefull )

[SoloIsAHotCougar]

I had my first at 34 and was almost 43 with my second...found it Ok and not much different, although second baby screamed non stop for 6 months...
I'm now 47 and would do it again if I wasn't single. The only thing that would stop me now is the fact that I'm already going to be 60 the year Dd turns 18. That's more of a consideration than having a baby in your mid 40's IMO.

Should also say that I was very fit and healthy with Ds, but have ME and therefore extremely fatigued with Dd, but I'd still do it from the pg age perspective.

[seeker]

I was 37 for my first and 42 for my second. Easy pregnancies and births. Not sure if I would have been less tired if I had been younger, but I would certainly have been less patient, less philosophical and more stressed and perfectionist. For me it was good to be old enough to be happy to be a "good enough" mother. So it's swings and roundabouts.

[tallulah]

I was a couple of months off 44 when I had my DD. I found the pregnancy harder than when I had my older children. The last 3 months I was working I couldn't walk the 10 mins into town for lunch because I was exhausted.

Since she's been born there's not been so much difference at all. The only thing is like solo said about being 60 when she's in her teens. She's 4 now and I wouldn't wish her away

[MerylStrop]

I had my third at 40 and it was my easiest pregnancy, birth and baby (though the toddler years look like they may shape up to be -er-challenging). I'd be definitely up for having another, would we not be utterly skinted.

Good friend had her third at just shy of 45 and also found it no worse that the others! Tiring yes, but no worse for her age.

It really depends on so many things other than age I think.

[GentleOtter]

I had our third child at 47 and it was the easiest pregnancy and birth than the first two.
My dh was 50 at the time but we soon got used to the sleepless nights and they seemed to pass very quickly.
Early toddlerhood was a bit more nightmarish as there was lots of running after him or making sure he did not climb up things but it did get easier when he went to nursery when he was three.

Some days we feel completely exhausted and other days, have lots of energy but we both work long hours so it is not just running after our ds.

Yes, we think about him coming in at 2am when he is 21 and we are 70 something or if we are spared by then.

I agree with Meryl in saying that there are other things other than age.

Congratulations if you are pg.

[Hope88]

Thank you everyone! I am not pregnant yet. Just thinking about it.

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[Elibean]

I had dd1 at 43, and dd2 at 46 - second pregnancy was harder from morning sickness point of view, but not particularly from tiredness point of view. Given that i had a 2 year old at the time. Though I have to say its a bit of a blur now!

Toddlerhood was hard, especially as dd2 had various breathing issues at night (floppy larynx) until she had an operation aged 2. I think having two is just much more tiring than having one, whatever age you are - and having a baby with health concerns is also tiring, in a different way.

The teens at 60 thing does worry me occasionally - but not for long (no time!) and there are other factors that make me worry less (extended family, financial security we wouldn't have had when younger, etc).

I certainly wouldn't have wanted to wait much longer though...good luck deciding!

[Hope88]

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