Do you like your kids friends?(12 Posts)
Just wondering! My DD's (10) have some lovely friends but there's a couple that I wouldn't mind if they never saw them again. I do, however, put a smile on my face and let my DD's invite them round, though inwardly I'm grimacing.
Not just kids friends, most of those I do like its my friends children who I find difficult. One of them is a year younger than ds and he's a whiny little tell tale swine.
Some are better than others. DD's best mate is great, adventurous, laid back, has a very upbeat attitude towards life & loyal to DD (almost to a fault). Never spiteful or tempermental. She's also a predictable fibber (about things kids brag about) and eats too many sweets, but those are pretty minor negatives I can easily put up with. Some of DD's other friends are a bit shallow (DD is shallow and flightly too, sometimes, mind!)
DS has a best mate I don't know at all, because his mother strongly discourages friendship between them. DS says the other boy is brightest pupil in the class, I barely know anything else about him.
A lot of what I know is dd's version of events and so all her friends are really horrible and mean sometimes . I don't even want to guess what her friend's parent think of dd. Whenever I see them all together they are having a great time so I guess the are all multi dimensional personalities . As for ds's mates - don't go there!
Some I like, some I can't stand. If they have done something to upset DD I find it very hard to forgive them even though DD has completely forgotten about it. Have to bite my tongue a lot when they come round.
Parenting is very hard
I find myself biting my tongue a lot too. One friend who comes round a lot is a telltale who feels it's her duty to inform me of every single thing my DD's have done at school (good or bad). She stops me at the gates every day and talks at me for ages. I struggle to be polite, but do so because my DD's seem to like her.
I do now. DD had a really irritating friend in primary school - she was self-centred, thoughtless and really quite unpleasant (IMO ) DD liked her so I bit my lip so often it bled. Friend was shed fairly soon after she went to secondary and now she only has lovely friends.
DS1 has always had good friends - some were a bit lairy I suppose but still charming and good company. But he has ditched most of those now - and I have even tamed the Troll who he keeps bringing back home to play X-Box to the extent he speaks to me when I speak to him
DS2's friends are only 8 so still cute and it isn't possible not to like them. Yet.
my son is being bullied at the moment its being dealt with but i discovered that one of his friends is causing the trouble by stiring it up.
how do i welcome him into my home after that?
I like all of them. The only child I dread coming is because of the parents rather than the girl herself. They seem to think she's the polar opposite to how she really is, eg "oh she won't watch TV" cue child mithering for cbeebies for an hour. "she'll eat anything" cue child turning nose up at food (I have a fussy eater, no problem with that, but wish they'd give me a clue as to what she will eat. Then they bang on about how they couldn't put up my daughter's eating habits )
I actively dislike several of DDs friends and won't have them round. My house my rules . One in particular is a foul mouthed little madam. Parents are horribly indulgent and super rich. Madam looks down on DD because we don't have eleven bedrooms and a swimming pool.
Thank goodness we are leaving in six weeks time.
She did have one lovely friend when we lived in Thailand. Really really lovely. Generous and funny kind and a tiny bit bonkers. All the things my DD are really.
We'll be living around 30 miles from her soon.
DD1 has a friend who cries when she doesn't get what she wants, or something doesn't go her way. It's not that I'll refuse to have her around, but it is ANNOYING. I took it very seriously the first few times, because I thought she was really upset; then realised it's just what she does.
DS has a little gang of 4 (including himself), and 2 of them are lovely and a pleasure to have round. But the fourth boy is a pain. Very whiny and always telling tales, has a real temper on him and also has the delightful habit of shitting/wetting himself fairly regularly despite being 7 and a half. Only does it when he's at friend's houses, and appears to be scared of missing something so won't go to the loo when he needs to. His mum is lovely and a very good friend of mine so it's difficult to deal with. In fact, have just dropped him & DS at Beavers after giving him his tea, and cleaning the bathroom floor after a lump of poo fell out of his pants. Nice.
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