I started a thread (www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/1228831-How-to-MAKE-her-listen) about my daughter but sorry haven't replied to the comments, didn't mean to be rude, just wasn't sure what to say.
Today though I feel I am being tortured! Of course I know that I am not actually being tortured and that I am taking it too personally but that's just how it feels. I can't stand it when people don't listen to me and just ignore what I say (I probably have issues regarding this) so it really gets to me.
This morning my daughter is going to school and then leaving after lunch to go to the dentist. We have to go on the bus so she is really excited. She's nearly 5 by the way. So we talked about it yesterday and I told her what would happen and it what order, school, lunch, bus, dentist. She kept asking so I kept telling her.
This morning she kept asking as well so I told her (as did my DH) over and over again. It was nice that she was excited really but she just kept going on. Eventually though it just made me flip as I didn't understand why she wasn't listening to what I was saying. She asked me yet again if we were going to the bus stop now. "No" I said, "what did I say earlier?", she just looked blank. I said "what shoes did you just put on?" and she said "school shoes". So I said then that tells her where she is going first. So then she says "am I having lunch at school" whilst holding her lunch box after I have shown her what is inside and talked about how I would pick her up after lunch and who she would sit next to at lunch! I totally flipped!
I really lost it, I got so annoyed, shouting and swearing. I honestly don't understand why she won't remember from one minute to the next and the things I tell her don't seem to go in. She's an intelligent girl, inquisitive and doing well at school. I am ashamed to say that I asked her if she was stupid . I am so upset about it! I feel like a terrible mum, in fact I know I am a terrible mum. But she asked me probably more then 2 dozen times! I try to leave the room but she follows me wailing as she knows I am mad with her.
I have tried having a very serious conversation explaining that she needs to listen to what I am saying and that if she keeps asking then she isn't listening and that maybe she needs to think about the answer (and if she already knows it) before she asks it, and I have tried to explain how annoying it is and how she would find it annoying too if I didn't listen to her.
I do the "I have answered that question already so I am not going to answer it again" thing but sometimes I get too mad to be rational like that.
So upset
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TotallyLovely · 08/06/2011 10:09
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