advice from mums please..

[boobah1970]

I'm a dad and have not long separated from my wife, we are still sorting financial / living arrangements so I am current staying with a friend - I still have access to the family home and regularly spend most weekends with the children there. At the weekend my daughter was admitted to hospital with breathing problems, as she was to be kept in overnight my wife was to be the parent to stay over night at her bedside. My wife then without discussing arranged for my son to spend the night at his grandparents, and would not allow me to look after him back at the family home. - given the exceptional circumstances of the daughter being hospitalised it it unreasonable for me to want to look after my son while my wife stays at the bedside.

[amberleaf]

Maybe she thought you'd like to be able to visit the hospital freely ?

Or maybe she didnt feel comfortable with you staying in her home without her there?

[boobah1970]

Possibly my son was off to activities with friends on the Sunday so visiting Hospital was never an issue, and I'm regularly in the house with just kids at the weekends. I just felt it a bit harsh and tough on my son who had seen little of me due to my daughters illness.

[amberleaf]

Maybe it was just done so as to ease pressure?

It doesnt sound as though it was done maliciously.

GPs possibly thought it was being really helpful?

Hope your daughter is on the mend?

[yousankmybattleship]

Hopefully she just wasn't thinking straight. I'd have a chat with her though and let her know how you feel. I hope your daughter is feeling better.

[boobah1970]

Thank you for your concern.. DD is back on the mend, looks like it was a chest infection that go the better of her but she is now back to bouncing off the walls.

I'm uncertain about going into the ins and outs of what has been going on at the risk sounding like some whinging dad, I've always been a have been told I'm a logical, diplomatic and easy going type of person however I just feel i'm up against a brick wall. :(