Do you hold on to a child whilst you make yours appologise?

[soppypreggyloon]

bit puzzled and about how a grandparent handled a situation at toddler group. I might be being hormonal, pregnant and PFB about it but it didn't sit well with me so thought I'd get the general consensus!

Ds was pushed by another girl. Her gran was there and held on to the girls arm while she made her appologise to ds. However she also held on to ds' arm in the same way while she did it. I saw the arm holding bit and went to see what had happened. He was innocent of anything but as soon as he saw me he burst into tears and was very very upset.
I'm pretty sure he was scared by a stranger holding on to him. It was definitey not his hurt or tired cry.

Do you hold on to another child while you make yours appologise? I really don't know if I'm right to be about it or the hormones have got me!

[ceebie]

I think she shouldn't have but at the same time I don't think it's worth worrying about too much.

[notso]

I don't agree with making toddlers apologise but I have seen what you described, I assume it's done so the apology receiver doesn't run away before the all important apology is received.
As long as she wasn't hurting DS then theres no real harm done I suppose.

[ragged]

Not normal, misguided because most toddlers will feel alarmed by it.
3yo DS upset a child today & he ended up apologising twice --immediately after it happened & again later after the child had had a cuddle & calmed down.

[soppypreggyloon]

Glad I'm not being a mad PFB mummy then!

The girls gran we only see at toddler group- I don't know either of their names so ds I'd imagine was probably quite freaked out.
It's definitely different if you know the other child and their family well but for ds (2yo) and this other girl who I think is under 3 (and not talking yet according to her gran) it's a bit much.

Think I'll keep an eye and explain I'd rather she didn't do that if it happens again.