anyone know of any good books re dc anger management?

[nowwearefour]

My dd1 is displaying real anger issues. I suspect she has learned them from me from my previous untreated depression (now sorted). I worry about the likelihood of her becoming depressed as anger is a key sign of it in me and both her parents and lots of her grandparents are prone. i'd like to know what i cn be doing now to best help her- this anger is not healthy for her and it is not good for anyone around her.

[LizinFrance]

Hi there,

Sorry cant recommend anything, but am really interested in any replies. I have 4 kids, and ds1 (10 years old) has anger problems too. Can be fine one minute, then raging the next. I too had depression problems (after his birth) and wonder if this has something to do with it.

How do you deal with it nowwearefour? 9 times out of 10, all the family end up involved and things 'explode'.

Good luck

Liz

[FlyingSquirrel]

This won't solve her anger issues, but if you haven't read it, read How To Talk So Kids Will Listen....etc it will be a good start and (hopefully) encourage her to talk rather than rage.

How old is she?

[nowwearefour]

thanks- have heard of this book before so will def get it (our library is shut for 2 months atm!). she is 5.5

[FlyingSquirrel]

you may be able to use other libraries in your borough on your local library card

If she's only 5 it could help a lot.

Good luck.

[nowwearefour]

Liz i try to be as calm as possible and say it is ok to be angry and find out what the problem is and then suggest a way of dealing with the issue in a different way. but when it has been going on all day and she snatches or throws or hits out at her sister for the umpteenth time that day i end up resorting to shouting or doing some equally other unhelpful thing. i am always sure to tell her i love her all the time and cuddle her once a punishment eg time out has been completed. but it is so very tough. she is either v v up or v v down which is hard for everyone.