Mine is NPD/BPD too and is unravelling under the court microscope - it is looking likely that he will lose contact completely because he left them on their own in his flat apart from the fact that he was violent to me and lots of other shit too - it isn't something that you can just guess at though - diagnosis takes a long time. Mine has had psych intervention since he was 3 years old (not that i knew that until his medical records were released)
Be careful with labels but if you suspect you do need to get others involved and safeguards in place.
To me she was emotionally and psychologically abusive, but I've been told she has been physically abusive in a more recent relationship.
I think it may currently be a bit late to try for forensic mental health evaluation, as the final hearing has been and gone.
That said, there is to be another review hearing in the Autumn next year.
I'm hoping that because she has weekly contact and a long way to travel for it, that she'll not be able to remain consistent with the contact. That's what's happened before. And then in time it can be dropped.
I'm not happy that I hope that, as DD does enjoy her time with her Mum, loves her, and would want to keep seeing her. And of course, I'd like to think that one day the ex will manage to be a reasonable, decent NRP.
Sadly for all concerned, the past does not indicate that she's likely to become that decent NRP.