i know this may seem a very strange thing to post but was just wondering if anyone else has experience of an INCREASE in patience since having a child as opposed to a DECREASE.
previous to having my 4 month old ds i had zero patience and tolerance to most things and even for first 2 or 3 months of his life too. for example during the numerous feeds/wakes in the night by the last one id be cursing under my breath at how f***ing ridiculous it all was...etc etc
but now...i seem at peace!! and im not sure why. but now when he's grizzling, being grumpy and i cant do anything with him instead of getting stressed i find myself becoming sympathic towards him...is this normal? or am i truly losing the plot as a lack of sleep deprivation!!
I experienced this too. I was incredibly intolerant of everything before I had my son. After a few months I'd just come to the realisation that there was absolutely nothing I could do in some situations, so I should just accept that these things were going to happen. Pretty similar to when I was in labour - I didn't see the point in complaining and shouting because I'd just accepted that the pain was going to return and nothing I did would change that.
I think it's just one of many things I learned when I became a parent. I often look at the behaviour of people who haven't had children and recognise my own behaviour pre-children. I wouldn't ever tell them that because it sounds incredibly smug and patronising, but I really have developed in many ways which my childless friends haven't! Inevitable, really.