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anyone elses baby opposed to cuddles?

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sugarbea Fri 19-Nov-10 13:05:14

DD 11 months, very happy and playful but will not cuddle....ever......even when she's tired. DS now 5 was a very cuddley baby..He would sit on my lap or put his arms up for a cuddle. DD how ever would much rather run and play. I know it's very selfish but sometimes I just want to give her a squeeze but she's not interested there are far more other things to do.
DD was born with a rare health condition and has had 10 opperations in 11 months..some day cases some as an inpatient. She was taken straight into neo natal at birth so I never really got to hold her straight away and she's had to go away from me so many times to go under anasthetic I wander if she's just used to it. She knows i'm mum and is always happy to see me or play with me.
I wander if all the hospital visits etc have made her a bit too tough.. She is the happiest baby i have ever known and always smilling so she is obviously not unhappy.
Will she start cuddling me later on..To make it worse ds is nearly 6 and getting a bit to embarrased for cuddles now..I will have to buy myself a teddy.

inthesticks Fri 19-Nov-10 17:50:37

Perhaps it's just her personality?
I had one cuddly baby and one not.
DS1 was not cuddly and I did not realise the difference until DS2 came along and for the first time I found how affectionate a baby could be.
They change though, and now at 14 DS1 reaches down from his 6'1" to hug me all the time, whereas Ds2 is going through a distinctly cooler phase.

skippingturtle Fri 19-Nov-10 20:02:56

Mine is. sad She loves to lie on the sofa next to me while I talk to her, but won't be cuddled. She was taken to SCBU immediately she was born, not sure if that's a factor.

InmaculadaConcepcion Fri 19-Nov-10 21:25:02

My DD 9.5mo isn't very cuddly either. It's like trying to hug a mini bucking bronco! Only if she's REALLY knackered and being resettled in the early part of the night will she let me cuddle her and even then it can be a battle!

I'm sure it isn't personal! She likes hanging out with us, even if she doesn't want to be enfolded...

PinkyBurgerhead Fri 19-Nov-10 21:27:10

Also have a very un-cuddly DD. Didn't have any worries with SCBU or anything like that - it's simply her personality.

DS much more cuddly. Anecdotally I have been told a few times that baby girls are more independent.

LadyOfTheFlowers Fri 19-Nov-10 21:30:48

I have 4 kids, though the oldest is only 5 so don't have as much age span, but as babies, only 2 of them were cuddly.

DD is 7m and my first and last DD and I so wish she would fall asleep on my chest/in my arms, but she just wants to be left alone when it comes to sleep.

MakemineaGandT Fri 19-Nov-10 21:31:05

My DS1 wasn't at all cuddly - I think it was just his independent personality. He was hopitalised with a nasty bug at 9 months old and spent 24 hours wanting to be cuddled - it was absolutely lovely (apart from the worry of the illness!) but once he was better he went back to not being interested in cuddles. Once he was about 3 he began to love cuddles (by then I had DS2 who has always been a very cuddly child) - perhaps it was seeing me with DS2 that did it?

thisisyesterday Fri 19-Nov-10 21:31:40

my first was like that. from the moment he could pull himself away from me he did.
he NEVER let anyone cuddle him ever. even if he hurt himself i couldn't cuddle him

he has started giving dcuddles in the lasyt year or so tho, but only to me grin he is 5.5 years old now!!!

SkyBluePearl Sat 20-Nov-10 07:17:21

My little one was not very cuddly for months but she got over it when i started being extra silly with her. I could then sneak cuddles in the form of 'mummy monster' or 'stealing squeaky cuddles'. She is ever so cuddly now.

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