ok...this might be a bit long so apologies in advance.
I'm concerned about someone I know. Our children have been in the same class since nursery. Her eldest has had a lot of issues at school and with friends as she's generally not very nice to anyone. There's been neumerous incidences of her doing very nasty things to other children. Her DD is always dirty, un kempt looking and sometimes smelly in dirty and ripped clothes. She once came over to play a while ago and i gave her one of ds's tracksuits to go home in as I washed her uniform (I chickened out at told her that her dd had spilt something on her uniform). We have been out ocassionally together with the children but i stopped this because she used to swear and slap her dd and then just let her run around knocking on peoples doors or taking things from shops. I swiftly stopped social interaction in public and stopped play dates as DS started picking up on her behaviour. She also at 4 told my ds about sex and where to touch and what to do.."alarm bells"...
She now has more small children. They are dirty the babies smell like sick, the house is filthy..(and i don't mean havent done the washing up) I mean you cant walk through the house for shitty nappies and food and general grime. Her children don't go out, she ropes in other people to take her children to school. She has family that obviously don't pull her up on things and I feel that though our children know each other and I pop in to say hi on the odd occasion i'm not the right person to pull her up on it. The children are neglected and her DD who's at school with my DS is getting worse and worse. I've offered her support before and even taken DD out without her but she ran away from me and told me to shut up and wouldnt listen. And i know this sounds bad though i love my own children i'm not a naturally patient person for my sins and she behaves so badly i have to take her home.
I know that her dd doesn't eat breakfast before school and she always complains she has no money to feed the children, yet she finds money for fags and to go out or have a sunbed.
There is one more thing that really worries me. She told me quite openly during one of the first times our children played together that she has had a lot of family issues and her father was acused of being a paedophile by another family member. But they didn't prosecute.(the whole family deemed her a liar) but her DD spends a lot of time with him when she can't be bothered. I feel awful about saying that as I had no proof but I can't shake it.
What would you do?
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would you call social services????
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sugarbea · 15/11/2010 23:04
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