I think the year from 3-4 something magic happens and all of a sudden you can do things, eat a meal out, go to the cinema, and it's not a trial. I have a 7 and a 5 year old and they are so easy now - I also have a 21 month old so I'm not completely living on easy street yet!
Actually, DS is easier now than wehn DD was born. I don't hvae huge screaming arguments about getting his clothes on (in fact he dresses himself) I can go for a walk with him without sheer panic of him running away, the cereal thing, he has just grown up so much. So it has given me hope
mine are 3 and 5 now. Meals are accompanied by laments of "How much do I have to eaaaaaaaaat" "I only like smallllll carooooottttsss", "He's copyinnnngggg meeeee", "whats thisssssssssss????" from ds1 and just random noises and constant trips to the toilet from ds2.