hello i have three sons aged 9,7 and 3. after my third was born their dad left me and made an application for custody. he has a job where he earns over 100k a year hes got a good solicitor wheras i was unemployed at the time, he won custody. this was two years ago. the judge said they were to stay with him till they turn 18 and ordered i was allowed contact one saturday a week which i had for the first 18 months, then my ex moved to scotland! i live in london and i have a very sick mother to look after, moving to be nearer to them isn't possible, i can't abandon my mother and in any case i can't afford it.i haven't seen them now for 6 months. i love my boys and i miss them terribly. it was the hardest thing i ever had to do when i handed them to my ex. i never believed he'd get custody. i was a good mum, hows it fair to seperate a good loving mum from her kids in this way? my youngest was still very young but my other two boys were 5 and 7 at the time and it was harde for them and me, we used to just sit ans cry together sometimes on the contact. just because he has money doesn't make him a good dad, i don't think he mistreats the boys but he doesn't really want them either he just took them so that i couldn't have them. its the type of man he is. when we split he wanted to punish me and he did that very effectively. it is killing me being away from them. any advice? what can i do? i've tried getting this back to court and its like a brick wall.
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