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How to pick your battles...
(6 Posts)with under 6year old kids. I desperately need help here. I am constantly telling my kids off and hitting them uneccessarily. I am a monster! A very hard to please b***h. I have no excuses. I just need to stop being horrible!!!
picking your battles = telling off for hitting, screaming, name calling, bad behaviour.
Silliness that doesn't hurt anyone - ignore.
Unfortunately they may well be copying your behaviour, leading to more screaming shouting and hitting all round. Lead by example - remember they learn how to behave from watching you.
If you are actually hitting your kids, perhaps you need some RL help? Do you still see a Health Visitor?
I try very hard to let my DS be a child, only telling him off for being willfully naughty, rather than silly (eg hitting, running away other dangerous stuff)
I tried a new regime of praise praise praise and it's really paid off, I get a lot more good behaviour. I make sure DS knows what is expected of him. When he's starting to play up I start a conversation about how well he behaved on X occasion.
If I've got more than one DC and one is being naughty while the other one behaves, I praise the 'good' one and tell then that they'll get the 'treat' (eg biscuit after lunch) that the other one might not get if they continue.
I warn him the first time, then if he continues, I tell him again what the consequence will be and count to five. The counting should help you keep perspective and your temper.
Thank you! Please what is RL help? I feel a constant pressure that hasn't eased off. So tense all the time. I use praise a lot but then lose it after trying so hard not to yell. I think I will have to speak to health visitor. I am on waiting list for some counselling as was depressed. I am incontrollable
Sorry, I meant real life. Yes, do speak to someone, it sounds like you are really struggling.
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