I went skating with ds1 yesterday (indoor session at local high school). At one point I ended up chatting with a little girl (Jessie, 7? 8?) who was upset becuse her little sister had been calling her names ("stinky" this or that kind of stuff).
I said, "Whatever she said you know it isn't true". "She's just making things up to get your attention."
Jessie said that she told her sis that the name-calling hurt, but little sis said that she didn't care.
Eventually I suggested that maybe Jessie could reply next time with really lovely things, like "You look wonderful", "I love you", etc. "She can't keep calling you nasty names if you're being so nice to her, can she?"
Am not really sure that would work, though. Felt rather inadquate, basically. I could see that it had cheered her up that I was talking to her, at least. I got the impression Jessie & sis are in foster care, didn't probe, so may not be a consistent parental figure on the scene to sort things out.
Assuming I might encounter this situation next time I go skating, is there something better I could say to Jessie?
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fqueenzebra · 14/08/2005 11:04
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