I hate weddings. Tell me I'm not alone.

[Pruni]

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[vwvic]

Yes yes yes!

How I dislike the whole affair!

In fact, do and I haven't yet got round to getting married due to my irrational hatred of the whole ceremony/dress/reception malarky!

[vwvic]

Of course, I mean dp

[expatinscotland]

I hate them, too. I find them dull. We eloped. My sister had this massive wedding with over 400 guests and the only thing good about it was the open bar.

[anchovies]

agree with dinosaur in that they used to be much more fun in the old days! Much more fun when ds stays with his grandparents and I get plastered and dance (on my own) to the macarena like the last one I went to!

[Pruni]

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[Norash]

I enjoyed mine, but I am not generaly a fun of wedding.

[expatinscotland]

I couldn't agree more, Pruni!

They're like a tired old game. I hate having to buy clothes I'm never going to wear again just so I can be appropriately dressed, too.

I think nowadays people are just invited so the couple can get a gift. It's a money making venture.

As for it being a piss up, I'd rather meet my friends down the local and kick back in our jeans and boots and be comfortable.

[Pruni]

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[compo]

Ah yes, got a wedding to go to this weekend. Hate the travelling, the fact that we'll be on a table with childless couples we don't know and we'll have to amuse ds throughout boring speeches. Not to mention amusing him throughout the ceremony and feeding him shacks all day because the 3 course meal could start any time between 2pm - 5pm. And after all that having to leave before the drinking/dancing gets going because actually no, he won't sleep quietly in the corner of the room til 11pm. Do you get the idea I'm not looking forward ti it?

[beansprout]

Serious point - why go? I'm doing the deed in a few weeks (very low key) but if anyone felt like that I would really prefer that they didn't come. If someone is going to resent being there, why bother?

[compo]

snacks not shacks!! One friend decided to get married on an August Bank Holiday Monday - it cost another of my friends £20 for a taxi from the station to the venue in the middle of nowhere as it was double fare. He was not amused!

[lilibet]

I hate weddings that follow the traditional 'formula'.

Whereas mine was just wonderful

and we went to a fantastic one in March, which was in Islington and that was really different to.

I can't understand why people want something thats like every other wedding

[expatinscotland]

I agree, bean. These days I just send along a gift. I can't be arsed travelling unless it's somewhere I want to go.

[compo]

beansprout - I think I go because I want to see my friends/family get married but hate all the hassle that goes with it. I was so glad to see all my friends at my wedding and thankful that they had made the effort that I feel like I should too. And I always enjoy it once i'm there!!

[Blu]

I'm with pruni.

Making small talk with loads of boring relatives.....shudder.

But have also been to some v lovely ones that were enjoyable.

I do find the whole opulence of weddings a bit icky, and usually want to dissociate myself from it.

[beansprout]

I went to a massive one earlier this year. Ds was 5 months old, we knew NO-ONE else and hardly saw the bride and groom. Totally agree it really wasn't the easiest way to spend a day!!

[sweetkitty]

I hate them too (am not married either)

I hate buying outfits/paying to get there/hotel/present, sorry but I also think wedding lists are outrageous going round John Lewis picking things you want other people to buy you isn't right IMO.

Hate the waiting, waiting for the ceremony, especially waiting for 100 photos to be taken, waiting starving cos dinners 4 hours later, waiting for dinner, hate the top table thing too them getting served first and lording it over everyone else, speeches why? first dance why? reception only guests (ie we don't like you enough to invite you to the whole thing), crap wedding bands that play old songs to keep old relatives happy.

afraid I'm a grumpy old cow too DP and I will elope eventually.

[beansprout]

I don't mind the presents. I mean, ideally, a wedding is a one off affair and yet birthdays and xmas always require presents so why not weddings?

[Tommy]

LOL Pruni!
I dislike some weddings but some are great - especially if the couple are a bit more independent and don't do things just because their parents expect it.
We have to go to DH's uncle's wedding next week - DH doesn't even want to go but.... families eh?!

[compo]

oh God the waiting!! The wedding we're going to is at 1pm so obviously no chance of lunch before because of travelling, then the phots that take so long, then finding out where dinner is, where your sitting etc etc, and then waiting to be served. Why have a wedding at 1pm fgs it's lunchtime!!!!

[expatinscotland]

I dont mind presents, bean, but it's the whole 'Buy me this in particular' or 'Give me money' bid that I find offensive. I like gifts that the person has taken time to chose for me and think it's a tad gauche to ask for something in particular, especially money, or have a list that makes people feel guilty if they are unable to get me something I 'want' b/c it's all about celebrating and having good company. Well, for some folks it still is, but it's not for a lot of the weddings I've been to.

[sweetkitty]

hate that too have had friends crying down the phone to me because their parents are paying for their wedding they are dictating things about it i.e. inviting their friends, seating plans, bloody table decorations, think the thing turns into their parents showing off to their friends TBH

My mum and dad always skint so that won't be happening to me, although I am a disgrace now having 2 children and not being married

[beansprout]

Fair enough expat, but I think I prefer just going to the John Lewis website and sorting out a pressie than racking my brains for something they might not want, need or like. I think I am a bit lazy!