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Is the jump from having one child to having two easier than from none to one?

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hunkermunker · 29/07/2005 21:36

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jessicaandbumpsmummy · 29/07/2005 21:37

PLEASE someone say yes!!!

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Nemo1977 · 29/07/2005 21:37

pmsl fingers crossed here too

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hunkermunker · 29/07/2005 21:37

LOL! Yes, come on, all you yes posting people!

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rummum · 29/07/2005 21:38

yes.. you have some idea what to expect and more experience to know what they need...
does that make sense?

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zaphod · 29/07/2005 21:38

Of course it is. You now know what is in store for you and you have much more confidence the second time round.

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sansouci · 29/07/2005 21:38

No. It definitely is NOT easier. It's not double the work, it's work squared.

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womba1 · 29/07/2005 21:39

This is making me nervous!!! Why is nobody replying?????

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compo · 29/07/2005 21:39

I think it must be because you know what sleepless nights are like. But with first at least you get to nap in the day

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rummum · 29/07/2005 21:40

well... when we brought daughter home from the hospital, we just sat looking at her saying.. what do we do with her... what shall we do if she wakes up... with son, 22 months later... I cooked a roast dinner when I got in!

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hunkermunker · 29/07/2005 21:40

Does it make a difference with a smaller/larger gap between the children?

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zubb · 29/07/2005 21:42

Yes, for the reasons rummum and zaphod have posted - you're a lot more confident second time round, and you know what you're doing.

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puff · 29/07/2005 21:43

Well, you do know what to expect more. Not sure about it being easier than the jump from none to one - just different. I think it may depend on the age of the elder child. I've found it trebly exhausting with a 24 month age gap - got a bit easier when eldest was out of nappies.

There'a great book - title has socks and hairbrush in it, all about the move to more than 1 child.

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Pollyanna · 29/07/2005 21:45

Yes, because it's not the life changing event that it was the first time.
No, because it's more work. (You wonder why you found one hard work once you've got 2). sorry that's not very helpful.

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morningpaper · 29/07/2005 21:45

I'm sure that I could wrap my nipples around lampposts now without feeling any discomfort, so I'm hoping that breastfeeding will be easier with no. 2...

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hunkermunker · 29/07/2005 21:47

MP, that's my hope too! Mind you, may be bfeeding two...!

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hunkermunker · 29/07/2005 21:48

Not my hope to wrap nipples round a lamppost, just to clarify...!

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franke · 29/07/2005 21:48

I didn't find it easier at all. I expected to know what to expect second time round but I didn't - I had no idea. I also couldn't get my head round the logistics of looking after 2 small people. It got better after about 6 months though. 14 months on, I'm knackered. Can someone stop the roundabout please - I'd like to get off and have a rest for 5 mins

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morningpaper · 29/07/2005 21:48

That means you can eat twice as much, Hunkermunker...

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emmatmg · 29/07/2005 21:48

Yes, definatley


rummum, I was exactly the same with ds1, but the day Ds3 was born I cooked a beef casserole, did 2 loads of washing and hung it all out (he was born at home).







I have to admit though it did nearly finished me off!

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helsy · 29/07/2005 21:49

Er, yes. Or no. Dunno. I've no brain cells left - I have two children.

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hunkermunker · 29/07/2005 21:49

Good point, MP! Can I start now?

Scared I won't sleep enough... Or at all! NEEEEED sleep... Mmmm...sleep!

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vickiyumyum · 29/07/2005 21:51

its easier in that you are more prepared of what to expect, night feeds, nappies etc. but i found it harder in that with ds1 he fitted in around our lives, came with us to restaurants, took him to friends houses that didn't have children, but ds2 was a 'noisier child' he neversettled weel, whereas ds1 would happily play in his pram/buggy/on the floor with a small collection of toys.
ds2 constantly needed to be held and have attention or he would cry th whole time (basically he was a bit of a nightmare, thankk goodness he has grown out of it). ds1 slept all through the night from 9 days old and he was breastfed but with ds2 it was over 2 years before i had a proper nights sleep!
i think it just depends on the personality of the child if they have a similar disposition or better/more placid/nicer than the first then its a piece of cake, but if you first has lulled you into a false sense of security about how easy it is, just be prepared that it may not be.

having said all that, i do now love having my 2 boys and can't imagine not having either one of them.

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chicagomum · 29/07/2005 21:52

less terrifying but more tiring and sometimes you just don't now how to be in two places at once, as others have said it depends on the gap (having one out of nappys is a definate plus)

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sansouci · 29/07/2005 21:52

Must add that it's certainly more work, but more fun, too.

did i really say that??

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Socci · 29/07/2005 21:52

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