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Is the jump from having one child to having two easier than from none to one?

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hunkermunker Fri 29-Jul-05 21:36:28


jessicaandbumpsmummy Fri 29-Jul-05 21:37:02

PLEASE someone say yes!!!

Nemo1977 Fri 29-Jul-05 21:37:46

pmsl fingers crossed here too

hunkermunker Fri 29-Jul-05 21:37:56

LOL! Yes, come on, all you yes posting people!

rummum Fri 29-Jul-05 21:38:25

yes.. you have some idea what to expect and more experience to know what they need...
does that make sense?

zaphod Fri 29-Jul-05 21:38:29

Of course it is. You now know what is in store for you and you have much more confidence the second time round.

sansouci Fri 29-Jul-05 21:38:31

No. It definitely is NOT easier. It's not double the work, it's work squared.

womba1 Fri 29-Jul-05 21:39:13

This is making me nervous!!! Why is nobody replying?????

compo Fri 29-Jul-05 21:39:38

I think it must be because you know what sleepless nights are like. But with first at least you get to nap in the day

rummum Fri 29-Jul-05 21:40:50

well... when we brought daughter home from the hospital, we just sat looking at her saying.. what do we do with her... what shall we do if she wakes up... with son, 22 months later... I cooked a roast dinner when I got in!

hunkermunker Fri 29-Jul-05 21:40:51

Does it make a difference with a smaller/larger gap between the children?

zubb Fri 29-Jul-05 21:42:04

Yes, for the reasons rummum and zaphod have posted - you're a lot more confident second time round, and you know what you're doing.

puff Fri 29-Jul-05 21:43:31

Well, you do know what to expect more. Not sure about it being easier than the jump from none to one - just different. I think it may depend on the age of the elder child. I've found it trebly exhausting with a 24 month age gap - got a bit easier when eldest was out of nappies.

There'a great book - title has socks and hairbrush in it, all about the move to more than 1 child.

Pollyanna Fri 29-Jul-05 21:45:37

Yes, because it's not the life changing event that it was the first time.
No, because it's more work. (You wonder why you found one hard work once you've got 2). sorry that's not very helpful.

morningpaper Fri 29-Jul-05 21:45:41

I'm sure that I could wrap my nipples around lampposts now without feeling any discomfort, so I'm hoping that breastfeeding will be easier with no. 2...

hunkermunker Fri 29-Jul-05 21:47:50

MP, that's my hope too! Mind you, may be bfeeding two...!

hunkermunker Fri 29-Jul-05 21:48:12

Not my hope to wrap nipples round a lamppost, just to clarify...!

franke Fri 29-Jul-05 21:48:13

I didn't find it easier at all. I expected to know what to expect second time round but I didn't - I had no idea. I also couldn't get my head round the logistics of looking after 2 small people. It got better after about 6 months though. 14 months on, I'm knackered. Can someone stop the roundabout please - I'd like to get off and have a rest for 5 mins

morningpaper Fri 29-Jul-05 21:48:23

That means you can eat twice as much, Hunkermunker...

emmatmg Fri 29-Jul-05 21:48:57

Yes, definatley

rummum, I was exactly the same with ds1, but the day Ds3 was born I cooked a beef casserole, did 2 loads of washing and hung it all out (he was born at home).

I have to admit though it did nearly finished me off!

helsy Fri 29-Jul-05 21:49:34

Er, yes. Or no. Dunno. I've no brain cells left - I have two children.

hunkermunker Fri 29-Jul-05 21:49:39

Good point, MP! Can I start now?

Scared I won't sleep enough... Or at all! NEEEEED sleep... Mmmm...sleep!

vickiyumyum Fri 29-Jul-05 21:51:26

its easier in that you are more prepared of what to expect, night feeds, nappies etc. but i found it harder in that with ds1 he fitted in around our lives, came with us to restaurants, took him to friends houses that didn't have children, but ds2 was a 'noisier child' he neversettled weel, whereas ds1 would happily play in his pram/buggy/on the floor with a small collection of toys.
ds2 constantly needed to be held and have attention or he would cry th whole time (basically he was a bit of a nightmare, thankk goodness he has grown out of it). ds1 slept all through the night from 9 days old and he was breastfed but with ds2 it was over 2 years before i had a proper nights sleep!
i think it just depends on the personality of the child if they have a similar disposition or better/more placid/nicer than the first then its a piece of cake, but if you first has lulled you into a false sense of security about how easy it is, just be prepared that it may not be.

having said all that, i do now love having my 2 boys and can't imagine not having either one of them.

chicagomum Fri 29-Jul-05 21:52:01

less terrifying but more tiring and sometimes you just don't now how to be in two places at once, as others have said it depends on the gap (having one out of nappys is a definate plus)

sansouci Fri 29-Jul-05 21:52:05

Must add that it's certainly more work, but more fun, too.

did i really say that??

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