Dh thinks that apeman will follow us to the new house...........

[sparklymieow]

when we move. He wants to move at night for this reason, I don't think he will follow us but dh is sure he will.........

[misdee]

i doubt it. he isnt that sad surely?

[sparklymieow]

I said to Dh that if he does, he can be charged with harrassment

[misdee]

if he does follow you and harrewss you then get an order out on him.

[nutcracker]

But that would mean they had to make an effort to get of their lazy a*s and won't do that, too much trouble.

[sparklymieow]

thast my thoughts too, they would have to drive over and harrass us, whereas atm they can do it from the comfort of their house

[MrsGordonRamsay]

Sparkly


I have read your threads over the last few months and have really sympathised with you and your situation.

But your DH needs a major kick up the arse.

It is one thing being strong women, as both you and Misdee are.

But he is taking the pi$$.

Sorry to be so blunt.

[sparklymieow]

I know, he doesn't realise that it affected me too, and he is always thinking the worse........

[SoupDragon]

Of course he won't. He's picking on you because you're next door and are an easy target. It's not personal as such is it? He'll just find someone else close by.

[MrsGordonRamsay]

Well tell him if he wants to move at nightm, he should go right ahead, tell him to pack a bag and start walking............and that you and the children will catch him up the next day.

[MrsGordonRamsay]

You will draw more attention to yourself if you move at night IMO

[sparklymieow]

exactly! he can see when we are leaving and arriving so he can target us easy! I have noticed he isn't parking over the drive now, I think someone had a word with him about it. and have noticed he won't come to the house and do what he is doing......... because he knows he will get nicked

[sparklymieow]

the kids are going to my parents overnight

[sparklymieow]

The thing is DH isn't a fighter but he has gone right into his shell now......... I am sick of this

[sparklymieow]

I also have noticed that AM has a problem with my mum but he hasn't bothered going to hers and harrassing her, yet she is only up the road (about 2 mins drive) and some of his mates know where she lives........

[SoupDragon]

He can follow you just as easily if you move at night - you'll have a large van into which you'll be loading your worldly goods which is a bit of a giveaway!! If he wanted to follow you, he could do it whenever you move couldn't he?

[MrsGordonRamsay]

Well......... how about, you get an attack of the vapours or period pains or whatever, retire to the bed and make him cope.

[misdee]

make him cope, stay in bed, make him take te kids out, and get out the back garden and sort it out for the holidays. any ahressment report it to the police!

[sparklymieow]

yep! AM isn't genarlly there at night, but I don't want to move at night

[sparklymieow]

DH is letting him win though........

[MrsGordonRamsay]

SM

Tell your DH he should be grateful that he is not married to me.

I would have kicked his ar$e so far into orbit, he would still be on his way back.

[sparklymieow]

i know, he is still really down about it, and will only go out if he really has to, otherwise I have to, even if they are standing outside

[MrsGordonRamsay]

SM

IMHO, you are mothering him too much, am I right in thinking that he does not work ??

[sparklymieow]

no he doesn't work, but I don't mother him,

[sparklymieow]

its just that I don't take control, the whole family would go to pot

[MrsGordonRamsay]

Well maybe that was the wrong turn of phrase.


However, if he had to get up and go to work everyday, I reckon he would do so.

So.... just ask him to hold that thought and help you out, by leaving the house with his head held high during daylight hours to move house with you.

He should be your support, not someone else to worry about.