As some of you know I'm in early retirement in the Lake District my dear friends of umpteen years live right across the road. My girlfriend is also retired and her dh has 2 years to go. They left Manchester last year and love their house here (they also have a village house in Spain). They are by no means 'rich' but have worked hard and budgeted well so that they can enjoy their retirement.
Their eldest dd has announced that she is pg after always insisting she would never have kids. My bf is absolutely over the moon as she is a real caring, loving person but had resigned herself to the fact that she would never have grandchildren.
She is now talking of selling their lovely home here in the Lakes to move back to a not brilliant part of M/cr (and into a house that wouldn't be as good as the one they sold in 2003) so she can be near her dd and the new baby and be there to do some of the childcare if needed.
Whilst I really understand what she wants to do - I think they are making a big mistake by selling up here and essentially giving up their dream. They only live 1½ hours away anyway so its not as if they would never see the baby and as she doesn't work they could go anytime they wanted - but there's the childcare problem too.
They are not doing anything about it until their dd has used up her maternity leave cos obviously a lot of things could happen/change. Her dd said she would like it if they moved back but she doesn't want to be the reason they give up this life.
From my pov it's a toughey - what do you think?
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JoolsToo · 12/07/2005 20:24
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