It was a line my mother used to drag up in any kind of row, the correct reply being well I didn't ask to be born followed by I wish I was dead[an emoticon of not sure what]...I'm now rather belatedly curious as to what her particular unnamed sacrifices were and as its too late to ask I wondered whether it's still something mothers (or fathers) feel from time to time...or if they would ever/never admit it...
You can have your own definition of sacrifice I would be interested to hear...
it's swings and roundabouts. Yes I've made compromises (sacrifice is too strong a word) but having dds has have made me realise all the amazing things my mum did for me. I'm not actually sure I'll ever redress the balance. And then there are the wonderful things dds do for me. All in all I think I'm very much in credit at the compromise bank. (or should that be debt? can't work out my own analogy)
No, defo not.
However i think that some of my friends may disagree, those who think that im weird for not compromising on ds's routine or putting his needs aside for a meetup or night out.
Done all that stuff prior to making the decision to have a child.
I don't think that children owe their parents anything but I apprieciate the time, effort and the money that my parents put in to raising me. They always went the extra mile and then some. I hope I can do the same for my kids.
I will be hurt if they turn into ungrateful little b**gers when they leave home.
not sacrifices, choices and the responsibilities that go with those choices. starting with the choice to have them and the responsibility to provide for them. i HATE it when i hear parents go on like that, HD and others are spot on, a child owes its parent nothing - i hate the i gave you life routine!
God you are all so nice... I have made loads of sacrifices namely my lifestyle, my home in London, my career, my sanity!!!, my money, my figure, my tidy house, dd bedroom which could have been my walk in wardrobe/ dressing room, my marriage, all the make up dd routinely trashes....
Custardo - I really like that comment. It's a feeling I have too but had never thought to put it that way - having children has taught me more about human nature, about my own strengths, about depth of feeling, about my place in the world, about what makes the world go round, than any of my other experiences.