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After all the sacrifices I've made for you...do you consider

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lemonice Mon 04-Jul-05 14:54:14

you've made any...for your children ...

sallystrawberry Mon 04-Jul-05 14:56:06

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Gomez Mon 04-Jul-05 14:56:32

Not a one - but then they are only 1 and 5 so that may change over the years! The balance is strictly in my favour.

Cam Mon 04-Jul-05 14:58:16

Yes I've made some, but only willingly!

norash Mon 04-Jul-05 14:58:19

I don't think we should ever veiw anything regarding our children as sacrifices, as SS so nicely stated below "We chose to have them"

norash Mon 04-Jul-05 14:58:42

Caligula Mon 04-Jul-05 14:59:37

Depends on your definition of sacrifice. I suppose so, but they've been ones I've wanted to make, for me as much as the children. I haven't done anything I really don't want to.

Cam Mon 04-Jul-05 15:03:18

norash it depends on how old they are when you make those sacrifices

lemonice Mon 04-Jul-05 15:08:25

It was a line my mother used to drag up in any kind of row, the correct reply being well I didn't ask to be born followed by I wish I was dead[an emoticon of not sure what]...I'm now rather belatedly curious as to what her particular unnamed sacrifices were and as its too late to ask I wondered whether it's still something mothers (or fathers) feel from time to time...or if they would ever/never admit it...

You can have your own definition of sacrifice I would be interested to hear...

hatstand Mon 04-Jul-05 15:09:45

it's swings and roundabouts. Yes I've made compromises (sacrifice is too strong a word) but having dds has have made me realise all the amazing things my mum did for me. I'm not actually sure I'll ever redress the balance. And then there are the wonderful things dds do for me. All in all I think I'm very much in credit at the compromise bank. (or should that be debt? can't work out my own analogy)

Pagan Mon 04-Jul-05 15:14:35

No sacrifices for kids but sometimes get irked by DH who I feel has not gone through such a signifinant life change as I have

Donbean Mon 04-Jul-05 15:17:43

No, defo not.
However i think that some of my friends may disagree, those who think that im weird for not compromising on ds's routine or putting his needs aside for a meetup or night out.
Done all that stuff prior to making the decision to have a child.

expatinscotland Mon 04-Jul-05 15:37:43

Nope. I don't consider it a sacrifice, either. I was in my 30s when I first had kids. I knew what it would be like when I started.

HappyDaddy Mon 04-Jul-05 15:41:19

Our children didn't ask to be born, they owe us nothing.

No matter how ungrateful they turn out when they hit teenagehood!

triceratops Mon 04-Jul-05 16:05:36

I don't think that children owe their parents anything but I apprieciate the time, effort and the money that my parents put in to raising me. They always went the extra mile and then some. I hope I can do the same for my kids.

I will be hurt if they turn into ungrateful little b**gers when they leave home.

kama Mon 04-Jul-05 16:06:44

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mytwopenceworth Mon 04-Jul-05 16:22:10

not sacrifices, choices and the responsibilities that go with those choices. starting with the choice to have them and the responsibility to provide for them. i HATE it when i hear parents go on like that, HD and others are spot on, a child owes its parent nothing - i hate the i gave you life routine!

SoupDragon Mon 04-Jul-05 16:48:04

Yes, of course I've made sacrifices but they didn't ask me to so I don't feel I could throw it back at them.

TwinSetAndPearls Mon 04-Jul-05 20:33:38

God you are all so nice... I have made loads of sacrifices namely my lifestyle, my home in London, my career, my sanity!!!, my money, my figure, my tidy house, dd bedroom which could have been my walk in wardrobe/ dressing room, my marriage, all the make up dd routinely trashes....

but I don't mind... well not too much anyway.

TwinSetAndPearls Mon 04-Jul-05 20:35:44

... and she has just handed me an essay that she has scribbled on and screwed up ...add that to the list!

lemonice Mon 04-Jul-05 21:04:15

What a lack of full blooded sacrificing...even ts&p doesn't go the whole hog(or lamb)

Hausfrau Mon 04-Jul-05 21:08:25

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QueenZebra Mon 04-Jul-05 21:12:17

an awful lot of sex.

Do you think that my kids won't really appreciate that one?

Tortington Mon 04-Jul-05 22:58:59

my kids were the absolute making of me of that there is no doubt.

hatstand Tue 05-Jul-05 09:50:55

Custardo - I really like that comment. It's a feeling I have too but had never thought to put it that way - having children has taught me more about human nature, about my own strengths, about depth of feeling, about my place in the world, about what makes the world go round, than any of my other experiences.

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