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Spamming friends, how to ask them to stop?

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Chandra · 29/06/2005 16:17

I have a friend who asked for my e-mail about 3 months ago and since then I have not received any single message specially directed to me but a multitude of other stuff I have not asked for or believe to benefit from. The spam includes prayers to the virgin of Guadalupe, the third message of the Virgin of fatima, chauvinitic poems about the role of good women as well as chains that ask me to pray or resend poems if I don't want to be burn in hell or be condemned to 20 years of bad luck or lack of love (most of these things come in powerpoint). She also has submitted my e-mail on certain sites so I can receive info (thank you very much) or get messages asking me to submit my details so she can have my details in certain on-line applications that I found a bit dodgy.

I would have blocked her long time ago but I found it a bit rude, so I just stopped opening her messages that included FWD in the subject. However she has rang me today and complained I never answer to her messages, and was annoyed that I have not submitted my details as I was requested to by e-mail. I don't want to submit them and I would love her to stop sending me so much spam but don't know how to tell her so without offending her, or offending her religious beliefs. However I'm so annoyed with this sort of behaviour that I'm afraid I will bite her head off the next time she complains about me not paying attention to her e-mails.

Any suggestions?

TIA

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SoupDragon · 29/06/2005 16:19

Tell her that all her emails get deleted by your spam filter.

Chandra · 29/06/2005 16:20

I did, she asked me to move to Yahoo e-mail where I would have more space

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starlover · 29/06/2005 16:21

oh for goodness sake... why is she so concerned about you getting her stupid spam?

i'd tell her that you don't want it!

Marina · 29/06/2005 16:21

And then set it up so they do.

I find this very annoying when it happens occasionally even in a minor way Chandra. If I was being deluged with extreme religious propaganda I would definitely not be as nice about it as you are being!

MarsLady · 29/06/2005 16:22

My sister does that to me.

I once had a lovely email explaining why deleting spamming emails didn't mean that anyone would die or that microsoft wouldn't send me money etc. Can't find it though.

I have now told people that I don't like them and that I don't forward them. I even told my sister that I don't read them. (She still sends them).

Just a polite email to her and whoever else you know that sends them saying that you would appreciate not receiving them. It's helpful if she's not the only one that you need to send that email too cos then (hopefully) she won't take it personally. If you don't have enough addresses to send it to then CAT me and you can have mine as well. Hopefully she'll not take it as a personal slight.

With regards to the religious beliefs, I find that those she gave a cup of milk, the Lord was standing there type emails rather pukey... and I'm a Christian. I delete those double quick. My faith is not denied because I don't forward them. hth

Pruni · 29/06/2005 16:22

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starlover · 29/06/2005 16:22

actually chandra... why don't you submit HER e-mail address to sites that will send her stuff that she doesn't want...

then perhaps she'll get the message?

Marina · 29/06/2005 16:23

Snap MarsLady re the still finding them upsetting when you are a Christian. Not my bag AT ALL. You have to tell her, Chandra...

Marina · 29/06/2005 16:24

Oh YES. Some Wiccan ones might be good for starters.

SoupDragon · 29/06/2005 16:27

Set up a new yahoo email address like she says. Somethign subtle like [email protected] should do nicely.

Bugsy2 · 29/06/2005 16:28

Sorry, I don't think it is worth going into battle on this one. I would just mumble something about trying to get onto Yahoo when I had time but not do anything about it & continue to ignore all the other rubbish on your normal email address.
If she really persists, say that you enjoy hearing from her directly but just don't have the time to go through all the long emails she forwards to you.

RTKangaMummy · 29/06/2005 16:32

I have a friend that does it to me too

I gave her our private email address ie one not for filling in forms on internet and yet again my inbox is filled with rubbish from her

MarsLady · 29/06/2005 16:36

I think simple straightforward chat actually. Tell her you don't like them and you would appreciate her not sending them. If she's a friend she'll stop, if not ... well no more email contact.

Chandra · 29/06/2005 16:37

Actually I'm so annoyed by religious chains or chauvinistic poems that in other ocassions I answer to yet another spamming friend why I found the poem so offensive. I started the letter by saying, your poem made me thought.... blah, blah. And she answered that it was not send to make me think (WHAT????????) but got offended and never sent another e-mail. A very religious cousin that send me another hoax about the world ending this winter was really offended when I pointed to him that it was a hoax and that he could find nmore about it in x internet hoax web site. Again, got annoyed and never wrote back. I suppose this relationship is heading exactly in the same direction....

Why do people feel the need to forward so much rubish??? if it were at least clever or fun, but dear, some of the stuff would do as a vomitive!

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Chandra · 29/06/2005 16:37

Marslady, snap!

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