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Elijah will have Bo as a middle name.

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bubble99 Tue 28-Jun-05 22:44:33

What do you think about this? I've discussed it with Mr Bubble and he thinks it's a good thing to do. I know that, as a baby and child, Elijah may subconsciously miss his twin. I saw them on scans and even though they were in separate sacs they were eyeballing each other and reaching out. My main worry is how he will feel about it in later life. People are often named after deceased loved ones, grandparents etc, but do you think it will make him feel sad once he's old enough to know and fully understand what happened? Perhaps if he has children of his own?

I know this should probably be posted on Miscarriage and Bereavement, but as more of you seem to look in here, I thought I might get some opinions.

Thanks. XX

nailpolish Tue 28-Jun-05 22:45:22


WideWebWitch Tue 28-Jun-05 22:45:36

I think it's a lovely really great idea and will be a good thing to explain to Elijah later.

Angeliz Tue 28-Jun-05 22:45:38

I think it's a lovely idea and i don't think it will make him sad.
I think he'll be honoured when he's older+

QueenOfQuotes Tue 28-Jun-05 22:45:59

I think that's a lovely idea.

misdee Tue 28-Jun-05 22:46:21

i think its lovely.

now stop before i start blubbing again.

Janh Tue 28-Jun-05 22:48:14

I love that idea, bubble. Many children are named for dead relatives as you said - who better to name Elijah for? Have tears in eyes at the idea in fact - lovely for him and for Bo, and when he's older he can easily explain his situation to others because of it, without it being a big deal.

marthamoo Tue 28-Jun-05 22:49:34

I like it too.

MrsWonderful Tue 28-Jun-05 22:49:39

You know bubble I was thinking about you today ('tis Mars here). I was thinking about Elijah and Bo and looking at DT1&2 and wondering how it would be for one to be without the other. I felt such a keen sense of loss for them.

You're completely right... give him Bo's name. I watched my two playing in the womb. They would hit and cuddle, just like they do now. I don't think that he will feel sad. I think he'll love the connection.

How's footle today? Bet he's getting really big!

lockets Tue 28-Jun-05 22:50:03

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MrsGordonRamsay Tue 28-Jun-05 22:50:11


Now that you ask..........................

Cracking idea.....................


sobernow Tue 28-Jun-05 22:54:13

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bubble99 Tue 28-Jun-05 22:55:41

Thanks for posting. It's all still so there. The shock has worn off but what's taken it's place is almost more difficult to deal with. I'm jogging along nicely dealing with the day-to-day stuff and then suddenly I get hit with an image or a thought that makes me cry. I am going to look through the little box with his hair, photos and footprints soon. Oh poo! I'm sorry to off-load all of this here, you were all probably having a good time until I showed up and I feel like everytime I turn up it's doom and gloom. Bubble with her dead baby again. Thanks.

nailpolish Tue 28-Jun-05 22:56:56

its not all doom and gloom, its a lovely post about something you are doing for your little boy. good for you xxxxxxx

Janh Tue 28-Jun-05 22:57:07

Happy to be off-loaded on, sweetheart

MarsLady Tue 28-Jun-05 22:57:22

bubble don't you dare speak like that again. We really don't mind at all. We are still reeling from Bo's death. You don't need to post for me to remember him.

We'll have no more of that.

You talk about what you want. We still laugh with you and believe me we still weep with you!

lockets Tue 28-Jun-05 22:57:34

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misdee Tue 28-Jun-05 22:57:38

awwwww bubble.

i cant put into words what i feel for you and your family and all you have been through. its a strange deep feeling inside my chest, its a mixture of sadness, awe and throwing myself on the floor screaming if that mnakes sense. your posts always touch me and make me well up. you are one person i really want to meet one day, even just to say hi, give you a hug and be on my way.


motherinferior Tue 28-Jun-05 22:58:21

I think I'm not alone in finding you an amazing woman and a joy to know. You've gone through the unthinkable and still have such strength, integrity and sense of humour. Please offload when you want or need to.

And it's a lovely idea.

sallystrawberry Tue 28-Jun-05 22:59:50

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MrsGordonRamsay Tue 28-Jun-05 23:01:39


What are we here for ?? If not to laugh together, weep together and support each other.

I tried to tell someone about Bo at the weekend and I ended up sobbing.

So Bubble, please, please do not ever ever apologise to us again.

Lecture over

We love you.


sobernow Tue 28-Jun-05 23:01:51

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sobernow Tue 28-Jun-05 23:01:51

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soapbox Tue 28-Jun-05 23:03:22

Bubble - no! no! no!

That really isn't what people feel!

I thought of you today when I spent some time with my friend who has baby twins and felt so sad that you never got to see your 2 babies kicking away on the floor next to each other.

I feel so sad for Elijah too, that he won't have the constant companionship of his brother throughout his life. I think having Bo as his middle name will help him feel that Bo is still with him, still a part of him.

Don't rush your way through the grieving process; give yourself time to remember and find some joy in the memory of the wonderful baby that you created!

MrsGordonRamsay Tue 28-Jun-05 23:03:36

Bloody crying now

Bubble, we need you as much as you need us.

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