to stay with her. DS is now 7 months olf and she has only seen him 3 times, blah blah blah, you've heard it all before, but we are always 'stopped' from trying to visit. Apparently it's all 'too much work' and creates 'a lot of washing'. Oh well, I mean, now thats cleared up I understand!
my husbands parents don't see our kids but once a year, becuase of distance. howevershe played favourites - since we moved she puts more thought into us as a family with regards to birthdays and xmas. it used to be that my kids didn't get anything becuase they had no money - whilst the other grandchildren who lived two doors away from me - did get things....but they were from a car boot - so that ok then. so glad to be out of it
my mums a clinicle nutter so we dont see her - infact we rarely see any family - so no family dramas to report - its fab. no grandchildren see grandparents often. the kids are often not that bothered if they have not known the attention previously. what is harder to overcome is the fact that your own mother can't be arsed to send a birthday card. so rather its your feelings than the childs that need to be reconciled.
mykids know i dont really likekids so until they are at least 5yrs old they can take their time in visits.
My MIL is a cow to me and dd... and hardly wants anything to do with her. HOwever, her darling grandchildren from dh's sister are "fantastic" "wonderful" "lovely" and non-stop raving.
MIL has seen dd about 6 times since she was born... and had the cheek to only spend £5 on her for her 1st birthday - we have the present already, not wrapped and price left on, yet her birthday isnt until July! Probably wont get a card because they decided to book their holiday over jess's 1st birthday - somethign they wouldnt dream of doing for the other 2 kids.
We now live a fair distance away so understand it isnt as easy anymore, but when we only lived 20 minutes down the road, they just weren't interested. They have travel cot and all sorts at their house for when the other 2 kids go to stay, yet the ONE time we asked MIL to have Jess, she said, oh i'd rather come to you and babysit while you are out and then go home.... sheer favouritism pisses me off to the EDGE!
wouldn't worry too much you kind of get past it. my ds1 is 7 and ds2 is 3 and mil and fil have never been to visit! we have been up to them but they always make some excuse to not come down here even if we pay for coach/train tickets.
oh and to top it off they didn't come to our wedding even though my mum and dad brought them first class train tickets and paid for a nice hotel!
Hope that makes you feel a bit better about you in laws.