Right, I have done a search and found a couple of old threads about vow renewal. It seems that a fair few people are really anti so, despite being in danger of getting shot down in flames, I thought I would ask for an up to date opinion on what dh and I are thinking about doing.
First a bit of history:
We have been together since we were 16 and 17. We got married when we were 21 and 22, a fairly understated white wedding that was pretty much taken over by certain relatives who shall now remain nameless.
Life has been 'interesting' and challenging, as it is for many couples. I have suffered with my health and nearly lost dh in an accident that resulted in a severe head injury and subsequent personality change. We never planned to have children, but after dh's accident we each found out that the other had in fact changed their mind about this and we now have 3 beautiful dc's.
Life has been particularly tough over the past few years for many reasons, which I won't bore you with, but through it all we have remained together and still love each other very much.
We are now coming up to our 20th wedding anniversary and coincidentally coming to the end of sorting out a lot of things that have caused us problems in the past few years.
We decided that we would like somehow to symbolically (sp?) to draw a line on our past problems and step into the future with our family.
We have discussed a handfasting type ceremony, but in all honesty I feel that this is a very special pagan ceremony and as we aren't pagan (although we are considered pretty alternative by many people), I'm not sure we should go down that route. I have spent a bit of time googling and have only come up with weddings/handfastings/renewals that seem to me to feel a bit over orchestrated and contrived.
What we were thinking is that we would like to celebrate 20 years of marriage and 3 beautiful dcs with our friends and family, whilst making a confirmed point of stepping into the future we have been working hard to create.
Ideally we would like something like an informal, outdoor event (maybe a picnic?) somewhere very natural and beautiful with the possibility of us renting a whole building to accommodate everyone or maybe even hiring somewhere with several yurts for accommodation. We have always wanted to buy our own woodland and have also considered doing this and holding our 'celebration' there.
Sorry for the long post, I guess I am just after some ideas for a nice, natural, informal way to celebrate our past and look forward to our future without it becoming a huge, stressful event or becoming theatrical in any way.
From what I've read on mn there are a lot of people who feel that vow renewal is a waste of time as the first vows were for life - so why bother. Our vows were indeed for life and still stand, but we don't want to just go off and do something on our own, we want to share our celebrations with the family and friends that have seen us through good times and bad.
Any thoughts?
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moosemama · 02/10/2009 18:42
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