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anyone else think mn aint friendly anymore?

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scottishmumto1 Sat 04-Jun-05 20:43:37

i feel it aint the same it used to be.too cliquey. i tried to offer wee bit of help and advice earlier to other mnetter and basically got ignored, but when another one of the clique offered advice she was all, thanks yous and asking how she was.
no gratitude these days

noddyholder Sat 04-Jun-05 20:44:33

saturday night and we're off

Dior Sat 04-Jun-05 20:45:44

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suzybong Sat 04-Jun-05 20:46:32

has this thing kicked off yet?

scottishmumto1 Sat 04-Jun-05 20:53:54

thanks dior. i have been on here for quite a few months now, i am on most days. i have posted a few threads asking for advice but only get a couple of replies. i feel if i was one of the cliquey ones i would have loads of replies. same when i posted pic of my dd, i think i only got 5 replies about her, one of the regulas would get loads of replies of, isnt she so cute, etc etc.

sorry try and cool down a bit now

any way how you tonight. my d is tucked up in bed and my house looks like a bombs hit it, but oh well

LGJ Sat 04-Jun-05 20:55:13

Groundhog Day

moozoboozo Sat 04-Jun-05 20:55:27

No one talks to me either, but thats because I am a loser.

hercules Sat 04-Jun-05 20:57:11

How can you take it personally? If you're not as well known, you're not as well known. It's not a personal snub if you dont get as many posts as someone else. Doyou really count replies?

Dont stress about it. It's natural for people to chat more with people they "know" better.. Just get in there and post!

mytwopenceworth Sat 04-Jun-05 20:57:31

dont know how it used to be, havent been coming that long. there is an established group of people who obviously 'know' one another well and have a history. sometimes you get talked to, sometimes you get ignored/overlooked. dont think its personal or anything, just that people naturally 'talk' more to people they already know. like dior says, you get a better response when your name is recognised.
(or, if you REALLY want a response, post something really offensive, and i guarantee everyone will talk to you!!!)

hercules Sat 04-Jun-05 20:57:54

i dont like the member profiles and dont post there because of this not because of who it is.

hercules Sat 04-Jun-05 20:58:43

I dont mean I dont like member profiles as such but I dont like posting pictures of kids for everyone to go barmy over.

emily05 Sat 04-Jun-05 20:58:51

scottish mum - When you posted your piccie you got good responses! Dont take it personally because you got 5! That is good! I posted here before and had no replies - but it is so fast moving that threads get missed, so dont take it personally x

WigWamBam Sat 04-Jun-05 21:00:57

Sometimes I've posted and had 3 replies, sometimes I've posted and had 300. It depends more on whether people feel they have anything constructive to offer, rather than that it's cliquey. It also depends on the time and day that you post - if it's a slow time then you'll get less response than if it's busy.

LGJ Sat 04-Jun-05 21:01:21

I have been on here for about 6 months, I really connect with some people, that is I like the essence/spirit of the person, it comes across on screen... others I like and get on well with, but dont connect with, so to speak.

This whole clique thing is a crock............sorry but it is.

If you are one here a lot you meet people.

I have to say the very late night shift is often the best fun.

There are no cliques, just meetings of minds and in some cases values.


Davros Sat 04-Jun-05 21:02:03

Is suzybong really Suzywong? Next she'll be suzybonk! Oh sorry, too cliquey. To be honest, I don't come onto MN for "conversation" at all. Sometimes threads turn that way or get hijacked but quite often not. And I read lots I don't post on, maybe I am offending those posters?

LGJ Sat 04-Jun-05 21:02:17


You can't even kill a thread

moozoboozo Sat 04-Jun-05 21:02:57

Erm, yes I can, actually.

There. Done it.

Nightynight Sat 04-Jun-05 21:03:31

LGJ I think that's exactly the sort of posting that's the subject of this thread....

Sorry, scottishmum, I posted you a reply on the MumOf10 thread before I saw this one.

Dior Sat 04-Jun-05 21:04:09

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Nightynight Sat 04-Jun-05 21:04:37

the first post, I mean, and the last line of your second one. Oh goodness, this threads moving too fast now.

lemonice Sat 04-Jun-05 21:06:05

hello scottishmumto1 - I don't really look at profiles either so wouldn't have seen you there.

There are lots of people here at different times of day and it's a bit like being anywhere that's crowded you can't chat to everyone and it's hard to remember much about people unless you bump into each other often, which eventually happens if you find someone you seem to have a little in common with.

Nightynight Sat 04-Jun-05 21:07:11

or with a memorable nickname of course!

HappyMumof2 Sat 04-Jun-05 21:07:28

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moondog Sat 04-Jun-05 21:08:27

I don't think a clique exists scottishmum. Obviously some people are matey and have been around for a while but remember that ultimately we're all on here because we're sitting home alone.
I think posting pictures of children is a little masochistic because obviously you will think along the lines of 'X got 15 replies to hers!' or whatever. Having said that,if I see that people post pictures,I do try and respond,primarily because all our babies are gorgeous..

Haven't been on for a few days though and must say that the nature of many threads gets me-sure it wasn't this choolgirlish a while back.
There seem to be several recurrent themes

1) Which MNer do you love?
2) What do you know about me?
3) I am going to tell you something rather unsavoury but because this is a parenting forum,anything less than 100% unconditional support will not go down well at all.


Davros Sat 04-Jun-05 21:09:19

I never look at profiles. I also think maybe more people do what I do and just visit certain sections rather than active convo so don't pick up on a lot and bump into the same people a lot.

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