Hello, first post, so please forgive unintended clangers/errors/faux pas.
We are expecting our first child in January. Partner is a teacher, so can't take holidays outside of official school dates, so we will use our statutory 2 weeks paternity leave. School would like him to take two consecutive full weeks - ie Monday-Friday. My question is - what date should we give for him to start?
We think it's likely that, should I go into labour on or before the 29th, then he would be allowed to leave school at short notice to attend, so it's unlikely he would miss the birth. But our worry is that, if we start the paternity leave on the following Monday after my due date, ie the 1st Feb, but baby doesn't show until the end of the week, then we will have wasted a week of paternity leave that we would much rather have all together as a family. (Though I admit, it would be nice to have him around to wait on me hand and foot when I am a beached whale waiting for labour!) Likewise, if we don't start it till the following week (Monday 8th Feb) then I might end up home from hospital in the previous week and coping with a newborn while he is still at work - not something either of us particularly wants to experience!
That's a bit mean of his school imho! We have a teacher at our school on paternity leave at the moment and he started it on Wednesday last week. The baby was actually born at the end of the summer holidays, so he came in for the first three days, then took it from there.
Is he sure he has to make firm dates? Fine, if he has to do them consecutively, but to actually have to book them, is a bit unreasonable to me.
My dh had to give a date in advance (gave the due date) but it was only for paperwork purposes and he actually got to take his paternity leave from the day dd was born. (She was early.) I would imagine the school would have to be accommodating, can't imagine that they can insist on it having to start on a Monday either. Is he in a union? They would be good for advice...or to fight his corner if the school is being awkward about it.
I'm not a teacher, but I do work in a school. There is a carers booklet that our council has which outlines rights. If there is any confusion its worth contacting his union or the HR officer at county who looks after his school.
Schools have to comply with the law as much as any other employer.
DH is a teacher and he didn't get paternity leave . His school said he could have the time off, but his lessons would not be covered by a subject specialist so he would need to set all the work in advance, mark it afterwards and catch up on anything that was missed. He found it easier to go into work the day after DS2 was born