We have three children, Bil and Sil have two. We buy birthday presetns for all four of them. They buy for dh and ds1, and get nothing for the rest of us
They do know that it is our birthdays as I have in the past been wished a happy birthday! And we once sent them cake from ds2. As I see it I have three options
- tell them - don't want to do this as I dopn't wnat them buying for us just because we have told them to.
- Stop buying for them - difficult as it was ds1's birthday last and he got something and then they have all four of their birthdays before we have another. I keep hoping that they won't get him anything then I can just say that we are following their lead.
- Shut up about it unless i am prepared to do either of the above!
I hate confrontation and it's not as if me, dd and ds2 are short of anything.
Should this be bothering me, am I just giving presetns to receive them?