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dd 17 is missing from home

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ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 12:57:37

hi my dd went to work on fri and said she was going camping whith bf and fam ,my dh saw bf sd on his motor bkie, so i rang his sd and they was all at home since then ive found out dd has gone to salford to see a pal ,whos well known to the police etc so i rang the police up and they said as she is 17 she can come/go as she wants to she wont answer her fone im so upset !! anyone been in my shoes

TheDMshouldbeRivened Sun 30-Aug-09 12:59:50

<<<<<hugs>>>> You must be so worried. Unfortunately at 17 they can do as they wish sad
My dd ran away at 14 and I could do nothing to bring her back.
Hopefully she will be back soon.

CarGirl Sun 30-Aug-09 13:02:25

Hope she gets in touch soon,

bobs Sun 30-Aug-09 13:05:48

I'm sorry for yr worries. Poss she is not answering phone as was up all night and is sleeping in?? My DD is nearlt 16 and I ask that she always tells me where she is going and if she changes her plans to let me know. With teenagers I've learnt you have to be 1 step ahead of the game - the number of times I've been caught out!!shock
Let us know when she turns up - sure she will soon...

shhhh Sun 30-Aug-09 13:15:28

Keeping my fingers crossed for you ilove x

ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 18:12:02

bobs ,she has double crossed me ,and she knows she will be in deep trouble ,shes still not home cops have said shes nearley an adult ,but she not shes just gone 17 in june ,if she was an adult she would be able to vote buy cigs and beer bit she can not her dad does not seen to bother at all ny dh and me are so worried for her safety

shhhh Sun 30-Aug-09 18:31:36

have you tried to contact any more of her friends..?
Are the police doing anything to help.? given a timescale before they will help or nothing at all..? Can't imagine the worry..sad

Nancy66 Sun 30-Aug-09 18:47:07

I hope she's home soon and safe and sound.
Seventeen is the age you can legally leave home without parental permission, which is why the police are not acting.

God, teenage girls are a nightmare aren't they? i remember how horrible I was.

ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 20:11:28

ive been fine all day now im really upset as she is in salford whith a girl whos known to the police in west yorks does not help me has i suffer whith anxitey/panic attacks/depression i feel ill now !!

ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 20:13:45

she has 2 mob nums and ive rung them tons of times no answer on any of them ones off and ones going on answer machine !! me and sd are so worried her dads not botherd !! a cans too inportant !!

chimchar Sun 30-Aug-09 20:18:09

thats awful. i can't imagine how you must feel...

can you text her instead of phoning? maybe she'll respond to that better....its a bit less confronational if she knows she's in for a bollocking.

hope you hear from her soon.

ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 20:24:46

i have left lots of texts and voice mails etc oh yes shes in for one hell of a bollocking !!

chimchar Sun 30-Aug-09 20:26:04

i can imagine!!

do let us know when she gets in touch. thinking of you...i'm feeling anxious for you! x

twopeople Sun 30-Aug-09 20:37:00

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ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 20:37:12

thanks cc xx

nigglewiggle Sun 30-Aug-09 20:42:07

Is there anything that would make her more vulnerable than the average 17 year old, like an illness for example? What is this girl she is with known for? These two things could make the police more likely to take action.

shhhh Sun 30-Aug-09 20:47:23

is there anyone who can try and call her...? I asume she is ignoring you and knows the calls when it comes through..maybe someone else calling on a different number may catch her unawares..?

Worth a try...

Teenagers are such a worry..im 10 (ish) years off till I experience the sulk and im so not looking forward to it.sad.

TBH,My sister was a nightmare for my mum and moved out to go to uni at 18 YET me on the otherhand..never a problem, left home to move in with (now) dh at 20 and my mother would defo have me back now..in a flash grin.

Keep positive and keep in touch with us x

ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 20:49:38

no shes not got any illness /or medication etc ,she street wise ,but the girl shes whith can twist her round her finger ,shes well known to the police in halifax [not dd] the girl hangs around we druggies smokes stuff etc gets drunk ,and when she gets nasty she threatends ppl whith knifes and my dd says its not her fault its her upbringing etc as she was in care from young age

ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 20:52:45

all my best mates who knows her have called her all day but they get the same as me !! i dont know what the salford area is like ,been told its not nice ,but hey i dont know

shhhh Sun 30-Aug-09 21:00:01

Im about 30/45 mins from salford..its not the best iykwim...(don't want to offend anyoneblush)

Hopefully she is safe, asleep and will wake up full of remorse..

FabBakerGirlIsBack Sun 30-Aug-09 21:29:02

You need to tell your dd that someone'e upbringing is not an excuse for violent/threatening behaviour and that she has to accept it is wrong.

How long has it been since anyone heard from her?

ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 21:37:53

ive not spoke to her since fri pm !

FabBakerGirlIsBack Sun 30-Aug-09 21:40:13

Has anyone else since then?

ilovesprouts Sun 30-Aug-09 21:56:47

no.no one can get hold of her

thesecondcoming Sun 30-Aug-09 21:58:57

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