Every day when you pick up a newspaper, or listen to the radio or watch the TV, a woman has been violently attacked, sexually assualted or killed. When I ask female patients if they have ever been abused in a relationship or as a child, a large majoirty say yes, in one form or another. Some women are even quite casual about it, because perhaps they were drunk when it happened, etc, they're akmost resigned to it being acceptable, feeling as though it was their fault.
When I teach SRE in high schools, we ask the girls what they want from a boy they fancy... we always get a long list: commitment, love, protection, but most of all, a relationship. They rarely ever mention sex. When we ask the same girls what a boy wants from a girl he fancies, the answer is always the same: sex. Then they all laugh. This again, is seen as 'the norm', and acceptable. All of the girls mention being 'touched up' at a party or whilst shopping in town by young men their own age. And they don't really see a problem with this. If a girl has sex, she has to deal with most of the sensible stuff in the relationship, the contraception, the emergency contraception, the abortion, the baby. Most young men don't have anything to do with any of it. The recent news thread about the 3 sisters all having babies, underage and alone is an extreme example of this. Don't even get me started on getting the men in for treatment of STI's which they have caught from / given their girlfriends....
I know there will always be fabulous men out there (my DH and DS being two of them!) but this is what I see day in, day out. See BBC News , The Mirror , just as a few examples.
How can we change these attitudes?? What is going wrong in our society? Do i just have a very warped view because of the nature of my local community and the people I meet through work? Does anyone else despair like i do? Discuss!
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Why is it acceptable to treat women this way? Will it ever change?
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hellomama · 24/05/2005 17:45
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