We aren't very close or anything but obviously I'm very sorry for him and his wife. Is there anything I should do or say or avoid saying or doing?
Vaguely thinking of sending a card (they are some distance away and under normal circumstances I'd never see them from one year to the next - sending wishes in Christmas cards to my Aunt and Uncle is about it, really).
Don't think I can call them - they are apparently being besieged by journalists (inquest has started and it appears to be a God-awful fuck up by the hospital). So the phone ringing is probably Not Good atm.
I'd send a card as well. When ds1 died we got loads of cards from people we didn't even know that well and although it was quite hard to read them it sort of felt that people felt it was important that he'd died.
Just say that you're sorry and are thinking of them at this awful time.
I think I know the story you are talking about was v.sad for the family when I read it so my sympathies to all of you.
I would send them a card and put a note inside letting them know that you will be there for them at the end of the phone anytime they need you, although you don't regularly keep in contact this may be the time to start talking more.
That happened in my family when my aunt lost her baby, it was like the baby brought us all together and things have stayed that way for 15 years now