Ok, I'm going to make my self look like completely ignorant now but I'll post it anyway. It could be long as I have to tell the whole story.
There are 2 muslim mums at Ds's school, they are lovely women and I get on well with both of them. One has a 6month old ds(her ds3) and one is due in june(will be DS3/DD1).
Anyway a few weeks back I did a boot sale and they both bought a few bits and pieces from me. This morning the PG lady asked me if I still had the moses basket stand (I did) and could she buy it from me. I told her she could have it as it's such agro doing the bootsales so she was doing me favour. She insisted on giving me some money and I said I really dont want anything, she asked again so I said "Ok just buy a bar of Chocolate for ds3"
I got the stand out of the loft and found loads of 6-9month baby stuff so I bagged it all up for the other lady. When I saw her at chool I asked her if she'd like it and she asked how much did I want. I didn't want anything again, we've got soooooo much stuff up there it's ridiculous. She seemed quite apprehensive(sp?) about taking it, almost embarrassed even.
Then the PG lady arrived and gave me a 2 boxes of maltesters and a huge packet of penguin biscuits!! All I meant was a little bar of dairy milk. She honestly seemed close to tears that I was willing to give it to her for free. The lady with the baby said thank-you about a dozen times.
Both of their reactions made me think that maybe I should have treated it like a bootsale purchase becuase I really don't want them to think that I think they are charity cases becuase they have only lived here for a short while.
Blimey......what a mammoth post.
Do you think I've offended them? I have no idea if their culture would think this is insulting. (which is why I think I'm being ignorant)
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emmatmg · 19/05/2005 16:31
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