Hi There,
Have just returned from my son's playdate and am just feeling how much less money we have than them and possibly a lot of people.
Whilst ds was there I got myself a paper and read it on the seafront in the glorious sunshine but was trying to avoid thinking about how I have No (and I mean absolutely nothing) money until child tax credits gets paid on Friday.
There is food in the cupboards, I stocked up on fruit and veg yesterday and have the meals planned for the next week. I could only get so much shopping though and will get next lot when child benefit gets paid in. There is petrol in the car but I just feel so powerless having no money on me and felt terrible saying no to ds yesterday when he wanted an ice-cream.
I work 26 hours a week and dh works full-time in Navy. All of our bills are paid up to date but we do have an IVA that is £245 per month but that is also up to date. There have been so many days and weeks like this. I get used to entertaining ds with next to no money near the end of the month but this is 14th so not halfway through yet! I have been spending too much on food shopping which I have addressed but I am still so rubbish at spreading what little we have left all through the month and I find it hard when the parents at ds nursery have au pairs, big cars, big houses and apparently money to burn.
I have always said that money means nothing and doesn't guarantee happiness but I am wondering if thats a bit naive. I actually feel powerless and inferior to others because of it. Its like having a dirty secret that you carry around and I feel like a fake.
I am intelligent and have a degree in English and so should no better really but our debt is more in control than its been for a long time. I can't control dh's spending however. He is away and has taken out £100 in last week for entertainment. This covers him until the end of the month. This cripples us and we just can't afford it but he rarely goes out, its just when he does it costs a lot because its a fiver a pint!
We have no back up like cheques or credit cards and have also been using payday loans which is plain stupid I know.
My job is to look after ds and keep the house afloat but its just hard! In my job I know people who live in their cars, have sold their cars, not eaten all day so know that THAT is poverty. Even so, I really struggle with it!
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Really feeling having less money than other parents- anyone know what I mean?!
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cheekymonk · 14/06/2009 17:16
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