thanks everyone, sorry had to disappear last night as DD woke up and then went to bed. DP followed me soon after, giving me a cuddle, and me shrugging him off, I was NOT going to let the guard down this time. didn't speank to hime this morning, then when he came back from the school run he apologised, he really was very sorry, he definetly realised that what he said hurt, he said "It came out wrong" and I was right in feeling hurt, that his parents haven't insisted, but he just doesn;'t want the debt over my shoulders, and I agree perfectly with him, he said he'd already spoken to the will guy yesterday and basically if I sell the house I'll give the money back to his parents, rest is mine and DCs, which is what makes perfectly sense. But Pippi, yes, it was that sentence, not the money (and words I know PIL would have used), and I know he's always in between and it's difficult (we had many arguments in the past with his dad), I think his dad can't accept he's a grown man, he's always putting him down and remind him/us what he's done for us, so obviously DP didn;t want that to carry on if he dies. glad that he said that yesterday was probably one of the worst days of his life, that he doesn't want that to happen again, must mean something, especially as the apology was a proper apology, not a "it will be forgotten soon" type thing. Anyway, enough of this, have to save my ranting allowance for when FIL's here in a couple of days (so sorry, I pre-warn you so you can just skip my posts )
Gio - for the school!!!, now keeping fingers crossed for pippi!
hope all ok with DD, franca