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at what age you start "discipline" your child?

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biglips Thu 05-May-05 19:04:37

mine is 7 months old and got very sticky fingers on anything... Dp said no and it ended up having a firm voice with a tap on her hand.. she soon got a grip of it of what it meant.. later on today she tried to pull a stack of papers off the table and i said no and said it again with a firm voice and again with a tap. she was getting upset but i felt bad she is my first baby

Twiglett Thu 05-May-05 19:05:57

No is fine

don't need the tap

but try distraction first, it will work much better at this age IMHO

compo Thu 05-May-05 19:06:53

imo 7 months is way too early. I try a firm no on my ds, 13 months, and it does no good yet!! I think sticky fingers is somethng you can't stop at this stage

fisil Thu 05-May-05 19:07:38

Agree with Twiglett.

We used no from the moment ds did stuff we didn't want him to do. Short and sharp and then focus on a distraction.

QueenEagle Thu 05-May-05 19:08:07

When she goes to grab anything which is forbidden say a firm no and give her something else which she is allowed to hold.

biglips Thu 05-May-05 19:10:19

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Clayhead Thu 05-May-05 19:11:19

Agree with Twiglett, just a firm 'No' and distraction. Wouldn't tap at all personally.

tiffini Thu 05-May-05 19:11:39

i believe you should start to disipline as soon as they misbehave, however your little one is not misbehaving, just exploring.
I would try just taking her away from the situation where she/he is causing havoc, it will probably take alot of times but should eventually get the message through. I dont believe a tap on the hand is necessary at that age either, it will be your tone of voice she understands when you say no. The trick is to keep your voice as low as possible when saying no.

Probably why most kids behave for thier fathers

Clayhead Thu 05-May-05 19:12:10

sorry, posts crossed.

zebraX Thu 05-May-05 19:27:43

Agree with Twiglett...
Although.... My 10 month old sometimes bites & I do say "No" for that (more like a shout if he's supposed to be breastfeeding at the time!), try to make it more in teaching than discipline mode (except for the feeding time antics, which is rather more in the vein of "do it right or you're not having any!")

biglips Thu 05-May-05 21:02:12

bump

Bozza Thu 05-May-05 21:06:12

My almost 1yo bites sometimes and I say "no" very firmly and sometimes she cries. However do not want it to become an issue at nursery.

CountessDracula Thu 05-May-05 21:07:19

I'm 38 and just starting

biglips Fri 06-May-05 09:56:57

last night i told DP that im not ready to tap DD's hand yet, as ill wait till she is 8 -9 months pg...eventually DP agreed..

uwila Fri 06-May-05 10:42:19

I think it's okay to start saying no at 7 months, but only if you remain calm (firm is okay). Just be prepared to be saying it for a very long time before you can realistically expect your DD to:
1- comprehend it
2- obey it

(expect comprehension before obedience) In fact, expect obediance in a year or two... sometimes.

beansprout Fri 06-May-05 17:31:34

What is the tap for? IMHO it's the thin end of a difficult wedge if you are physical when you discipline your child.

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