I am so bothered by this, I can't even face to put my normal nickname on here.
Today went with ds's class to their regular library visit. Had helped choose some books with the kids so told them to take them to the lady (the librarian). The response from the librarian was, "I'm a man". I wish the ground could've swallowed me whole
It wasn't that he was very iffeminate(sp), rather I thought it was a rather butch woman.
I am SOOO embarrassed and don't think I can face going again. I take my own kids there regularly (and have seen him before. Just always thought he was a woman) Now I feel I can't go again.
oooh, I know I'd feel just like you do.
But it's not actually 'your fault', you made a simple mistake. I suppose options are never go to library again, just 'brazen it out' a few times or be completely upfront and offer a genuine apology next time you go in. 3 would probably be the 'right' thing to do, and would feel better after you'd done it, and nable you to be happy as a regular in future - but would take a deep breath to carry out, IYSWIM!
If you were the llibrarian, what would you want a customer like you to do, do you think?
I reckon I'll steer clear for a week or 2 (get dh to return our books) then next time go in disguise! Today hair was very scruffy, worn down, generally I looked a bit of a mess. Next time I'll tart myself up a bit. Bit of makeup and he'll never recognise me (I hope)
We go past a dumpy lollipop person every day and it wasn't until I saw him without his yellow coat on that I realised he was a man. Dd still refers to him as the lollipop lady.
I wouldn't worry about it. I think it is his problem more than yours and he is probably fretting about it as we speak. There must be something about him that looks a bit womanish otherwise you wouldn't have made the mistake. Next time you see him, he will probably have changed his image and dressed in a more macho way (not sure what that would look like TBH!)
When I worked for a large high street retailer my collegue was taking a customers payment by credit card and she said to customer she thought was a man, 'sorry this card says mrs xx you have given me your wifes card by mistake' to which customer replied 'I don't think so, I am mrs xx.
I had to make a hasty retreat cos my collegue went bright red and I thought I was going to PMSL.
God, I used to have long hair and was sitting next to a woman with the same style as me, in a restaurant. After taking her order the waiter says, "and for you madam?" so i looked him in the eye and gave my order with a big smile! He sh*t himself!
Bloominheck you won't have been the first to make that mistake!! I often say 'the woman' or 'the man' in shops and my heart skips a beat because I haven't really checked - it's impossible when your mind is on a toddler or child. I wouldn't give it another thought!
People fairly often call me sir and I just laugh. Then they turn funny colors because frankly, all it takes is one good look at me to notice that I'm a woman -- I'm a 34 G FGS! But I have a low alto voice (I actually often sing tenor) and people sometimes don't really look, they just hear the voice and come to a conclusion...
I bet you're more traumatized than the librarian. I'd brazen it out.
Well feeling much better about it all today. Mentioned it to some friends at toddler group this morning. Before I'd even finished 2 of them knew what I was going to say as they'd both thought the same as me
When I told dh, he told me a great story. He used to work on a local paper and they had a regular caller to the office, a chap with a very womanly voice. Anyway one day he phoned the office and spoke to a new reporter who didn't instantly recognise his voice as the others did. She took the message and then asked the callers name. When he said "Its Joe Bloggs", she said, "oh thats an unusual name for a woman". He was exceptionally disgruntled by it and didn't call the office for some time after that