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Gobbledigook Thu 14-Apr-05 19:28:05

Well that was my response - what do you think?

A couple of friends of mine are going on a girls night out tonight with a group of Mums from their child's nursery (not mine so I'm not going) - one of the mothers, also one of my friends, has a 9 week old dd and is breastfeeding so she is taking her with her

Please - who would take their 2 month old baby on a girls night out to a posh restaurant?? And it's not about the fact that she'd be bfing her in a restaurant btw, but what about the other mums in the group and all the other diners who have gone for a night out only to find a baby in the place?!

Madness and tbh if I was going I'd be pretty peed off.

Mud Thu 14-Apr-05 19:30:05

Don't think it would bother me unduly TBH, very young baby will probably just sleep in carseat under table, a group of mums should understand. I would have thought she would have checked with other mothers, maybe she doesn't have any other choice in the matter, maybe her partner works nights?

NotQuiteCockney Thu 14-Apr-05 19:31:15

Most 9 week olds are reasonably quiet creatures. I wouldn't be bothered by this at all, whether it was at my table or elsewhere.

A one year old in a nice restaurant late at night is a bit much - they're noisy and disturb people and want to run about, but a two month old? No problem.

hoxtonchick Thu 14-Apr-05 19:32:03

i wouldn't have a problem with this at all.

bundle Thu 14-Apr-05 19:32:28

i think as long as there's a no-smoking area, it should be fine. on mainland europe people wouldn't even bat an eye.

Tissy Thu 14-Apr-05 19:32:33

can't see the problem myself, they're all Mums, and had presumably discussed arrangements beforehand.I would have taken my dd with me at that age had I been invited out somewhere, I was desperate to get out of the house. I'm sure the Mum would make her excuses if the baby was screaming the place down, but it's pretty easy to keep a b/f baby quiet....

lavenderrr Thu 14-Apr-05 19:33:47

maybe the baby wont take a bottle and this is the only was it can have its milk, in which case she'll have few options.

tassis Thu 14-Apr-05 19:34:43

I've been on a nights out where friends have brought their babies. As Mud says, babe slept in carseat for most of the time. WOuldn't bother me at all.

Why should all the other diners mind?

Gobbledigook Thu 14-Apr-05 19:36:08



I must be sooo intolerant!! I just think it's madness!

Her dh is at home cos he's looking after the boys who are 4 and 2. What's wrong with expressing some milk so her dh can feed her?

I know what you mean that she'd probably not be noisy but I still wouldn't a baby tagging along on a girls night out personally!

Lonelymum Thu 14-Apr-05 19:38:45

Wouldn't bother me as long as I wasn't expected to coo over the baby or look after s/he. I think this just shows how desperate she is for a night out, poor thing.

JoolsToo Thu 14-Apr-05 19:39:04

I thought the whole point of a girls night out was to get away from la famille and have a break! Also if I were one of the others mothers who had organised a 'me' night with the girls I'd be none to pleased to have a baby turn up!

there again me and you are on the same wavelength!

JoolsToo Thu 14-Apr-05 19:39:29

Lonelymum - she had dh at home to babysit!

Mud Thu 14-Apr-05 19:39:35

must be in the genes then?

Lonelymum Thu 14-Apr-05 19:39:37

Surely I mean him/her!

Lonelymum Thu 14-Apr-05 19:41:19

Well, I have to say I would not have taken my baby and if I couldn't express enough milk, I would have happily sacrificed a feed and let dh give the baby formula, but not everyone feels the same way about leaving their baby.

Lonelymum Thu 14-Apr-05 19:41:53

I take it they are not planning on following up the restaurant with a night club?

Enid Thu 14-Apr-05 19:43:38

well if I were your friend I couldn't have gone out as neither of mine would take a bottle at 9 weeks. Anyway, if you aren't going, why do you care!

lockets Thu 14-Apr-05 19:46:13

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Mud Thu 14-Apr-05 19:46:14

maybe the baby's up for a good night though might be a real groover

colinsmommy Thu 14-Apr-05 19:47:21

Imagine that, Jools Too and Gobbbledigook sharing the same viewpoint.

TBH, I wouldn't say anything, but I'd be disappointed. Most of the outings with my friends involve children, and the girls night or days out that we have are wonderful because the children aren't there, as much as we love them. It is just so nice and relaxing to not have to deal with anyone's children the few times we go out without any, and even though I wouldn't have to deal with her child, I'd be worrying about how other diners would react in a posh restaurant. Although we don't have any around here, so I wouldn't ever have to worry about that personally.

Enid Thu 14-Apr-05 19:47:53

I agree lockets...but I think a meeting of mums and a 9 week old is a very different thing to a couply, grown up night out and a toddler.

morningpaper Thu 14-Apr-05 19:48:01

Hehe I took my TWO YEAR OLD on a girl's night out to a posh restaurant recently. It was the only chance I had of going out for ages and I couldn't get a babysitter - her dad was away. She was under STRICT instructions to sit in her pram in her pyjamas and not speak. She was very good all evening and I just gave her the occasional breadstick while I had the odd glass or two of wine...

When she was tiny we took her out a few times to 'grown up' nights out. She just lay in her pram and if she made a noise I'd give her a breast and she was fine. I don't think anyone minded, especially after they'd had a few to drink!

misdee Thu 14-Apr-05 19:48:58

lol at 'give her a breast' mp. had a vision of you just handing her on

misdee Thu 14-Apr-05 19:49:14

handing her one

Mud Thu 14-Apr-05 19:49:44

eek .. you breastfed a 2 year old in a restaurant. I'm sorry I know that's an unpolitical reaction but that's just too much

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