My stepson is working in a pub during his year out, and there is a pg (about 8 months now) regular who comes in every night, drinks 10 pints and has 2 packets of cigarettes. She sits inside while her two other children shiver in the beer garden in their school uniform with no dinner. I can't help but be concerned about them and the new baby. I just don't know what to do - should I phone social services? Would they take the baby and children away? She definitely needs some help, but I don't want her to lose her family (I've chatted with the kids and they seem very happy - although perhaps they don't know any other life). What would you do? Advice please!!!
So what would SS do if I contacted them? I really don't want to be an interfering old biddy here. Talking as the daughter of an alcoholic, I know how difficult this is. Should I just leave well alone? But if I do that am I just guilty of not wanting to get involved?
I personally think you should ring SS. You can annonymously if you don't want to give your name or whatever. I work with child protection cases and this really concerns me even though I don't know the woman. If they aren't in danger then SS won't take it further but if they are then SS can protect those children. This is just my personal opinion though.
I think you should definitely tell someone. It makes my blood boil to think of the kids sitting outside waiting for her, not to mention her baby. If it were me I would phone various helplines, childline, nspcc, whoever, and ask their advice first, but you MUST do something.
I would ring someone about this. Have you actually seen this woman in action? Do you know her at all? Her baby's life is at risk on 10 pints a night and her other children's existence doesn't sound too good.
I have to say I am surprised that the licensee has not taken some action on behalf of any of the children. If I ran a pub and saw small children in my garden in all weathers I don't think I could turn a blind eye.
If you're absolutely sure she's an alcoholic then please call someone - my mum's an alcoholic and although at first I didn't know any different I grew to hate it with her. She sounds like she needs help! You'd be doing a good thing.
As a midwife I would advise you to inform SS in your area ( you should be able to do it anonymously ), although to be honest they may well be aware of her and the two children and the unborn baby are ( or probably have been in the past ) on the At Risk Register. As I work in the Community I have come accross situations similar to this before, and often people conceal their behaviour from the authorities. It would help SS if you can tell them what your DSS has seen. Is he willing to talk to them as well?