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galaxy Thu 07-Apr-05 22:33:06

I employed a cleaner who happens to be the au pair of a friend of mine. The `1st time she came to clean, I was here and she did a great job.

Today, she came whilst I was at work and did an OK job/ dh came home from work and found the Sky Box switched on and the TV on stand by so she'd obviously watched the TV whilst she was meant to be cleaning.

He then found, his bedside drawers had been gone through.

We have a pot of pound coins which we keep in the bedroom for parking/dinner money which I filled up yesterday with £100. Counted it tonight and £4.00 missing.

I felt I had to call my friend and ask her to get my keys back but told her not to say anything to her au-pair about her stealing, just that we couldn't afford her as our mortgage has gone up.

Friend was very shocked as she says she has had no problems with her au pair and trusts her implicitly.

Feeling like she doesn't believe me.


Sitting here in bed feeling very upset that this could have marred our friendship and part of me wonders if I should have seen what happened next week but I feel very unnerved by it all.

pixiefish Thu 07-Apr-05 22:35:11

for you galaxy and sorry that you're upset. You did the right thing in sorting it out now though- I couldn't bear to have someone I didn't trust in my home

wobblyknicks Thu 07-Apr-05 22:35:18

As long as you've checked its not gone legitimately - ie DH needing change etc etc then you're totally in the right. If you can't trust her then how can you relax with her alone in your house???

whatsername Thu 07-Apr-05 22:35:29

What an awkward situation. But I would say trust your instinct and don't have her back. I'm sure your friend won't take it personally

JoolsToo Thu 07-Apr-05 22:36:18

if you're not happy - you're quite within your rights to ask for the keys back - if your friend is still happy with her - she's quite within her rights to keep her on. Can't see why it should be a problem - if she's a proper friend.

jampots Thu 07-Apr-05 22:36:29

personally i wouldnt mind her having the tv on if there was no one else in the house - she may have been listening to the music channels. However, if you have money missing - and you're sure its missing - and she's definitely been through dh's drawers then think you should discuss it with her. Her employment is with you directly not through friend so no need to discuss with her

galaxy Thu 07-Apr-05 22:42:30

I'm positive dh never took the money as he takes £6.00 a day for parking and he was insistent he hadn't taken any more. He was asking me to triple check I had put £100 in there yesterday. (He'd already taken his £6.00 out before I did so).

I know her employment is with me but I felt I had to speak to my friend - this girl lives in her house and she has my house keys.

Dh called my friend as I was upset (after I spoke to her) and she just called me to say that she doesn't feel any anomosity and understands why I feel so upset. She is more upset that she recommended her.

galaxy Thu 07-Apr-05 22:43:33

The point about the TV is that she never asked. She's been asked not to polish it as it is a £3k TV and she left the Skybox on. We never leave it on and she was watching Home and Leisure so not the music channels

jampots Thu 07-Apr-05 22:47:46

sorry missed the bit where you said she was her au pair - duh!

you did the right thing then - can understand you not wanting her touching a £3k tv

JoolsToo Thu 07-Apr-05 22:49:04

maybe she was searching for an E cloth to help her clean!

(sorry - feeling giddy )

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