A woman who lives opposite me consistently breaks arrangements to meet up, yet also keeps contacting me every month or so to make fresh plans. She seems like a really nice person. I am pretty sure she is having a hard time and is depressed. I like her, but I don't know how to help her.
Bit of background - she moved into our street about a year ago with her toddler son and partner. Just after they moved, her partner left her. I know she was distraught and in very deep shock for months. Both dh and I made a point of talking to her when we saw her, sympathising, offering support while trying not to be intrusive, and also inviting her round. On two consecutive Saturday evenings she didn't show up as planned. This has set a patten. One of us sees her, we talk, she sometimes invites me or dh in for a coffee, she's seems happy to make an arrangement to pop round but then blow outs of it. It's not that she goes out somewhere else - her car is still parked outside. Sometimes she phones to apologise, sometimes she doesn't. She does have friends round sometimes, and she may have a boyfriend (not sure as I have not asked her outright), so life is moving on for her.
A couple of days ago she phoned to see if I wanted to come round with my children over half term. My husband took the message. I popped round to see her, she invited me in and we tentatively arranged to meet up this afternoon. As it happened, my youngest son was not too well so I didn't want to make firm plans, but as he seemed a bit better by this afternoon, I phoned her to ask if the plan was still on. She said yes definitley, but her son was napping and she'd wake him up in half and hour and come round. She would phone me first. Two hours later, no sign of her. I phoned to say I was about to go on the computer, so the line would be busy. She said she was just giving her son a snack but would be round after that. One hour later and still no sign of her!!!
She really seems like a nice person, she's my age (40s) worked in the arts, and we found out that we used know some of the same people in south east london. I would like to be more friendly with her - and she's really very chatty and friendly when we bump into each other. I am sure she is depressed to some degree (I would suggest mumsnet to her, but don't know her well enough to do so) I just don't know where to go from here.
In case you are wondering, I am a regular. If I do tell my neighbour about mumsnet, I want be undercover for this thread, so if you guess who I am, please don't say.
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leopardwasp · 07/04/2005 18:52
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