I'm on day 2 of another try at 'well if you won't eat what mummy gives you then you won't eat'. So far all he's had is:-
Breakfast - Weetabix, milk and fruit puree (half a tub)
Lunch - Nothing
Tea - 1 chicken nugget
This is what's happened both days. He's hardly had any juice to drink as I've tried to avoiud him filling up on that so he's only had water. He's had 2 bottles of milk. He's perfectly happy, running around and the lack of food doesn't seem to bother him but it bothers me. Is that my problem. If he doesn't eat lunch, he doesn't get to watch telly, doesn't get biscuits or sweets. If he doesn't eat tea, he gets bathed and ready for bed. Lunch time is 12-ish and tea is 5 ish. Anything I put down that doesn't get eaten goes in the bin.
He has huge bundles of energy and isn't losing weight so should I just give in and let him eat when he wants and what he wants. I've been calm when I've told him about the no telly etc, but all he does is tell his teddies this when he goes to bed.
Have you tried putting a selection of "healthy" foods on the table and getting him to help himself? Perhaps giving him a little bit of control (i.e. being able to choose out of a range of foods - but foods which you have originally chosen) might persuade him to eat more. If this is only day 2, I wouldn't give up yet.
How long do I keep going for. I know people say that kids won't starve themselves and the HV is happy with him but I got to day 6 the last time and couldn't go on. Even then, he ate 2 chicken strips and said thank you. I don't want him to associate food with something bad, I want it to be nice for him.
He seems to be really easy going about the whole thing. I think bethandbrood is right that if you give in now it will all have been for nothing. My ds is a really pathetic eater as well so I read him stories while he is eating. I think he just gets bored with having to sit down and eat, so if he's doing something else @ the same time it's not so boring.
150mls milk at 6am
Weetabix and fruit (half a bowl) for breakfast.
A fromage frais for mid morning. I tried to have a pic-nic with him, little bowls with raisins, farleys teddies (they're nice) and satsuma. He tried the biscuits and said no thank you to the rest.
3 Chicken breast bites and a small glass of fruit juice.
Seems a little better to day but knowing my little sweety, that'll do him for the rest of the weekend. I'll see how things go at tea-time. I'm off to turn on the oven.
My DD is very similar. Will not eat anything if its not what she wants. And there is hardly anything that she will eat anyway. I have started cutting right down on milk and if she doesn't eat what is in front of her then she has nothing. I'm sure it will work in the end. If there are things she genuinley doesn't like then fair enough but she would be quite happy to just live on shreddies and toast for every meal! Doesn't eat biscuits either - she has no interest in them. Think she has a very small appetite anyway because even though she eats so little she is not skinny
re milk intake,
my dd's (2 1/2)appetite was/is atrocious, at 1 1/2 i took her to alternative nutrionist, pediatric nurse, naturopath woman and she advised me to reduce the milk intake as milk in itself is a food not a drink, it lines the stomach and decreases appetite.
as my dd loves milk it was well diluted, but reduction did help, she's incredibly fussy and i just give up this week and hope next is better.
she has phases of eating and then its "dont like" to stuff she ate 2 days before...
as someone said on one of my earlier threads on this subject no child will suffer from lack of food when its there to be eaten, and i try to relax about it