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Upset by gingerbread man incident...probably irrational..

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Gobbledigook Thu 24-Mar-05 21:19:28

We had friends over today to play at our house. Children present were four 4 year olds, one 2.5 yr old, one 14 month old, one 10 month old, one 7 month old.

One of the mothers brought gingerbread men - big ones with chocolate feet and hands and smarties for buttons - she brought one for all the 4 yr olds but left out the 2.5 yr old (and obviously the smaller ones though I think I'd have brought one for the 14 month old personally). All the 4 yr olds go to nursery together (a sessional morning nursery) but so does the 2.5 yr old so he is friends with all the 4 yr olds and certainly old enough to manage a gingerbread man!

He watched as she handed them out saying 'yes, please' and then burst into tears, understandably, when he didn't get one.

The 2.5 yr old is my little boy and I was the host and it broke my heart. I know, I'm probably being very oversensitive about nothing but I thought it was very mean to leave him out like that. How did she expect him to react?

Rant over now - thanks for reading this far in my rather pathetic tale!! It really upset me though as I didn't know what to say to him. Luckily my other ds broke his up and shared it with him as did one of the other boys (not the child of the gingerbread bearer).

nutcracker Thu 24-Mar-05 21:21:00

Oh no i'd have been upset too. I have a 2.3 yr old ds and i would buy him one, wonder why she didn't, it's a bit odd.

HUNKERMUNKER Thu 24-Mar-05 21:21:06

Oh, sweetheart! I'd have burst into tears along with him (emotional weepy old duffer that I am!).

I don't think you're being irrational, but take that as you will...I'm not always known for being totally rational

nnosam Thu 24-Mar-05 21:21:06

ahhh, poor little mite.

essbee Thu 24-Mar-05 21:21:14

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bambi06 Thu 24-Mar-05 21:22:21

bad manners i would say and no wonder he was upset!!

HUNKERMUNKER Thu 24-Mar-05 21:23:23

[cross emoticon] that her DS didn't share though - I'd have snapped his gingerbread in half and given it to your DS (see, told you I wasn't rational!)

Your DS and the other boy sound lovely though - showering him with gingerbread man!

snafu Thu 24-Mar-05 21:23:39

Oh, bless him. Very mean to leave him out like that - did she say anything when he got upset?

Aero Thu 24-Mar-05 21:26:15

Oh gg - that is horrid and tbh, she probably just didn't think! Not thinking is the cause of so many upsets......your poor wee pet. I'd have brought enough for everyone, if not gb men, then something everyone could manage, even the 14mth old. My ds2 is 14 mths too and could have managed to do some serious damage to a gb man! Not an over-reaction by any means.

Gobbledigook Thu 24-Mar-05 21:27:44

Ah thanks everyone - tbh I nearly did cry!! Partly because the kids had been running in and out of the french doors from the garden and tramped soil on the carpet too! I was reaching the end of my rope and was itching to get the hoover out as well

She just said 'oh sorry' sort of to me but he was really crying - he wouldn't be used to my older ds getting something (ie biscuit, buttons) and him not. She always lumps my ds2 in her with her dd (14 months) as the baby - when we've been to hers she's set up the wooden train track for the 2 4 yr olds and blocked off the lounge with toy boxes so that my ds2 and her dd couldn't get in and 'mess it up'!! FGS!! What a 2.5 yr old can't play with a wooden train set?!?!?

handlemecarefully Thu 24-Mar-05 21:28:02

Goodness - I realise she is a friend of yours but did she leave her brain on the front doorstep when she came in.

How did she react - I hope she was suitably mortified!!!!

Dior Thu 24-Mar-05 21:28:03

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llkjj Thu 24-Mar-05 21:28:07

I'd be upset about it, too.

jampots Thu 24-Mar-05 21:28:57

I would have cried too GDG - what was she thinking of? How did she react when ds burst into tears?

I would have bought for all the older children (ie. not babies).

handlemecarefully Thu 24-Mar-05 21:29:32

Just read your last post - there is a huge developmental difference between a 14 month old and a 2.5 year old. Your friend is probably very nice but a little bit barmy!

Gobbledigook Thu 24-Mar-05 21:30:20

LOL at 'gingerbread phobia'!!

Exactly Jampots and since when could a 2.5 yr old not manage a biscuit?!?

bubbly1973 Thu 24-Mar-05 21:30:57

oh thats have been bloody upset too!!!

Gobbledigook Thu 24-Mar-05 21:31:22

Oh you are all so funny - PMSL at 'a little bit barmy'!!!

You've all made me feel better cos I was washing up after dinner thinking about it and it made me cry again! Thought I was just being a big softie!

You watch, JoolsToo will come on and laugh her socks off!

misdee Thu 24-Mar-05 21:31:31

my dd is 2.5yrs old, and she eat6s gingerbread men. they are her favourites. poor wee man being left out. i shall send him some of dd2 gingerbread men

PuffTheMagicDragon Thu 24-Mar-05 21:31:41

It's brought a tear to my eye gdk. my 20 month old would have cried too at being left out this way.

Let's hope it ensures she's more sensitive in future.

Twiglett Thu 24-Mar-05 21:33:37

Ahhh poor wee mite .. what was she thinking

could you spend some time with little DS making gingerbread with him tomorrow?

Gobbledigook Thu 24-Mar-05 21:38:34

Thanks Misdee!

I'll def go out and buy them both one Twiglett - not sure about making them! Got a kitchen to rip out tomorrow!!

Oh and just to top off the story, gingerbread mummy's ds tipped my potted plants right over onto their heads so the flowers are all completely squashed - actually JT will go mad cos they are her potted plants and I think she wanted them back <fear emotion!>

Twiglett Thu 24-Mar-05 21:40:54

Jools' taste in kitchens not good enough for you?

Gobbledigook Thu 24-Mar-05 21:43:08

HA ha!! Not the kitchen here, the kitchen in the house I'm still trying to shift! What a nightmare selling is at the moment - hence decision to put in a new kitchen - I'm sure it's putting people off as the current one really is on it's last legs!

HappyDaddy Thu 24-Mar-05 23:16:04

Hmmm sounds like she's happy for her kids to run riot at your house but not your kids at hers.
Next time you have a dinner party, give everyone wine except her. Look her in the eye and say "oh, sorry, I didn't think you'd be able to manage it".

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