oh thats grim. something similar happened to a bloke my DH worked with occasionally - he was a canadian national, and scarpered once he'd been exposed, leaving his poor pregnant wife to deal with the fallout...too too hideous. he had been working with children too. its all too real suddenly isn;t it?
TBH I am always surprised that people are surprised. My abuser was a great bloke - everyone loved him. Yet we still think that they are dirty mac types. Of course they are ordinary people who you would never suspect - that is how most ofthem get away with it.
I am honestly sorry for your shock though. It is a terrible kind of understanding to have to adjust to .
This sadly is the reality about people who abuse children. They can be seen as such lovely people. They are masters of deception and manipulation. Their crimes are indicative of that. I too am am sorry for your shock.
I genuinely just find it odd that people are so very shocked but I think that is probably a good thing. Better to believe that everyone is benign until you have evidence to the contrary. Absoloutely better
The thing that really does bug me is the attitude of 'but he couldn't have done it - he is not like that'. As if there is a type.
Its still a huge shock when you find that someone you know (or thought you knew) is capable of that. The barman of our local pub was done for looking at and downloading stuff a few years ago. I felt sick at the thought that he'd been in the same room as my dc (although never alone with them or anything thank God). He definitely didn't look the type either, a kindly old Grandad figure. Makes me shudder.