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any smokers? come and talk to me about it-i don't understand.

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themildmannneredjanitor Mon 22-Sep-08 11:46:38

i didn't want to hijack faq's thread so i will start my own.

basically-why do you do it? how do you sleep at night when you know what it does to you?

i know about the addiction thing but i know some smokers don't want to give it up as they enjoy it too much.

it's bizzarre!!!!!

[[ this] is a good reason to stop surely?

themildmannneredjanitor Mon 22-Sep-08 11:48:08

this even

themildmannneredjanitor Mon 22-Sep-08 11:48:41

or even this?


undercovercat Mon 22-Sep-08 11:50:56

I used to smoke. I did used to "enjoy" maybe one fag a day. That is ..feel the rush of nictine and it make me go Ahhhhhhhhhhhh
Similar to necking a glass of wine and feeling the stress run out your toes.
The rest of them are just keeping the levels of nicotine up.
Theres a bit o daftness in the I LIKE IT-I want to cut down.
If you like it, why not make more time in the day to cram more inwink
You ignore ALL of the health warnings. Even if its your own body coughing and SCREAMING at you to stop.

Tortington Mon 22-Sep-08 11:51:02

we know we are going to die.

finding rationale where there is n't any is impossible.

themildmannneredjanitor Mon 22-Sep-08 11:52:37

but does it not make you get that sick anxiety feeling in your stomach?

Overmydeadbody Mon 22-Sep-08 11:53:13

It's an addiction mmj, not really that bizarre.

People do lots of things knowing that it is bad for them. The thing you're forgetting, is that in the short term it makes you feel good and helps you.

I guess you can sleep at night because you don't obsess over the negative effects, and anyway, life always ends in death, no matter what decisions you make or how healthy or unhealthy a lifestyle you lead.

Aitch Mon 22-Sep-08 11:53:15

i don't smoke now but i would, absolutely would, if it wasn't so stinky and dangerous. it's brilliant, absolutely yummy, ooooh with a coffee or red wine. and it makes you more interesting as a person.

Overmydeadbody Mon 22-Sep-08 11:54:06

why would it make you get a sick anxiety feeling in your stomach?

Aitch Mon 22-Sep-08 11:54:19

i did used to switch over from the anti-smoking ads, i do admit. although they were pro-smoking in our house as we'd both light up when they came on.

Overmydeadbody Mon 22-Sep-08 11:55:10

<snort> at it makes you more interesting as a person!grin

It calms your nerves, and for me it helped me feel better and less stressed out in social situations, as it gave me something to focus on.

LazyLinePainterJane Mon 22-Sep-08 11:55:20

For me (am not a smoker any more, gave up 4 years ago after smoking for about 8 years) it was something that I fell into, started socially when drinking. When you are drinking you are certainly not thinking of the health side effects (otherwise why would you be drinking) and then it went from there. At some point you start to need it, feel like you want it and when you get to that point I think your brain starts to put aside all the health stuff, you don't really think about it until you start to want to give up.

I certainly, when I was smoking, never laid awake at night worrying about my lungs, the need and desire for cigarettes totally overwhelmed anything like that. The cigarettes become part of you, you see them as your friend, ridiculously. It's only once you come out the other end that you realise it's like a ball and chain, not a best mate.

Goober Mon 22-Sep-08 11:55:59

I gave up smoking 20 a day 13 months ago.
The risks were in the back of my brain, the addiction spoke louder than the threat of death.
I now hate it and feel proud and smug to be such an anti-smoker.

Overmydeadbody Mon 22-Sep-08 11:56:18

Even now, as an ex-smoker, I sometimes find myself in situations where I tink 'God it would be good to just light up a fag right now'

MarlaSinger Mon 22-Sep-08 11:56:35

I used to smoke and I thought I enjoyed it, until I stopped and realised that it makes you a slave, you always think about it on one level or another, at the very least you need to know you have cigarettes on you, or are near a shop, or can cadge off someone - it rules you, you are not really in control of it.

I loved it, I really did, the taste, the smell, the relaxing, and I was quite a drinker so the two went hand in hand, then you stop and realise it's all myth.

It is an addiction that convinces you that you are different to a non-smoker, why did I need a fag to chill out but my non-smoking friend didn't? Because she was already chilled out - now I know because I am too.

Allen Carr explains the whole thing really really well.

anorak Mon 22-Sep-08 11:57:16

Aitch, why do you think it makes you more interesting? I don't see that.

MarlaSinger Mon 22-Sep-08 11:57:26

Oh and the health side, well I am young, and always thought I would stop 'one day' so it's easy to ignore what happens to 'old' people who smoke.

themildmannneredjanitor Mon 22-Sep-08 11:57:27

because i think if i was doing something every day that i knew WAS going to kill me, that was massively increasing my risk of cancer, that was cloffing up my arteries and was going to lead to an early death-i just wouldm't be able to sleep at night i don't think. i would be so anxious.

LazyLinePainterJane Mon 22-Sep-08 11:57:59

I never seriously thought "this is going to kill me"...If I was in a pub or something, it would be a joke, calling them "death sticks" or similar.

No sick anxiety feelings at all, I loved it too much then.

NotQuiteCockney Mon 22-Sep-08 11:58:03

I've never been a smoker. But I can see it's a nice way to keep your hands busy, a nice thing to do in the day. (Ok, yes, it's gross and will kill you. Obviously! I'm not about to start! But all that faffing around with lighters and ashtrays, it's good.)

TheUNITUBER Mon 22-Sep-08 11:59:05

Well I gave up years ago but I loved it.

I loved the taste and smell (yes I know it's awful).
I loved the brilliant head rush when I lit the first one of the day.
To this day when I pass a pub by the river in summer I fantasise about getting an outside table, some Pimms and chainsmoking in the sun.

And I know it was disgusting, bad for me, made my fingers yellow, and that it would ultimately have given me a yellow 'tache, clogged my arteries and killed me. But God I loved it. I also (sadly) had a deep-down conviction that smoking made me look cool.

In the end it wasn't the thought of my impending death that made me quit. It was the realisation that when you are over 30, smoking looks quite sad. I would say that it makes people look insecure. I work in the city and can't afford to look insecure. So that is why I quit, and I have stayed stopped because now I have my daughter and want to be around for her, but deep down I still love it.

Goober Mon 22-Sep-08 11:59:18

Smokers think they need to smoke in times of stress, not so.
During this last 13 months my Mum has been diagnosed with cancer and she has since died. The stress is unbearable, but I haven't smoked.

zephyrcat Mon 22-Sep-08 11:59:29

I smoked for about 10 years. As soon as I became pregnant with DD1 I stopped. There was no question of smoking whilst pg. I started again a while after each of the dc's were born but never around them or in the house and I always put an extra jumper on to go out and smoke then take it back off again to come in!

I had a cold about 4 months ago which went straight to my chest and I couldn't bear the thought of smoking. I haven't touched one since. I understand totally the nicotine hit, the de-dtressing moment of lighting up etc but when I think about the kids it pales into insignificance and gives me all the will power I need to not go back there!

themildmannneredjanitor Mon 22-Sep-08 11:59:30

as for 'makes you a more intersting persn?'hmm don't see that at all.
makes you a smellier person certainly!

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore Mon 22-Sep-08 11:59:53

the way that i rationalise it to myself is that my grandma is 80 years old. she has smoked 40 a day and gone through nearly a whole bottle of whisky a day since her twenties. she is fine.

i know its stupid and doesnt mean that i will turn out that way. but the women on my fathers side of the family all smoke and none have smoking related diseases.

those smoking ads have no effect on me as they are telling me things i already know. they just annoy as they have dh there nodding with "ah there see look, look at what you are doing" so i go outside for a fag to get away from it.

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