I have a DD 2YO and adore her but feel I have lost touch with so many friends. Mainly through the practicalities of looking after a child and meeting up and also the way it is hard for them to relate to me as a Mum when I was kind of a "Party Girl" before and have changed so much. I have made lots of Mum friends through groups and the like but I can't really let go with them and it never really progresses from small and baby talk. They are lovely but I can't yet be "me".
I love my life and now DD is of an age where I feel comfortable leaving her with family (I have family nearby) want to get out and about again - meeting people, new experiences and generally letting my hair down but I don't know who to do it with. DH is supportive and we have promised to spend some time together but I also want to do things on my own or with others.
I was even wondering about when DD starts school is it likely I will meet a new crowd of people then? This sounds so pathetic. Does anyone have a clue what I mean? and where do I start?
Don't really have any answers am afraid! Where are you? Is it a city or rural?
My approach is to just be open and friendly (even if some of the mums are a little bit dull), we do a lot of playgroups and I make a lot of polite small talk (yawn). I just hope that underneath all the babytalk there is a kindred spirit out there who will be unearthed!
I feel your pain! More than you know. It DOES get better when LO starts school. I felt isolated when DS was pre-school (London party girl, like you, now living in Burbs), but on the first day he started school, I met a lovely group of local Mums who are SOOOO much more "me" than anyone I ever met at NCT classes, etc.