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Wedding Evening do - How much to give for gift (money)?

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Ally90 Mon 18-Aug-08 19:25:55

We have been invited to an evening do (me, dh and dd age 2.4). The couple are saving for a kitchen, how much would be a good amount to give them towards it?

The do is at a community centre with buffet and disco.


bythepowerofgreyskull Mon 18-Aug-08 19:27:01

Crap answer but as much as you are comfortable with.
I can't say that there is a right amount.

Ally90 Mon 18-Aug-08 19:44:27

Thanks, I'm just trying to guesstimate how much the do may have know buffet per head and all you do with wedding gift...well that's the way I usually do it

bythepowerofgreyskull Mon 18-Aug-08 19:46:22

may have spend £10+ per head on buffet?

never thought of cost like that for buying a pressie.

Ally90 Mon 18-Aug-08 19:55:51

I've been to a lot of weddings wink most of them to do with ex bf...often wonder at all the wedding pictures I'm on...

just never been to just a night do before. I was thinking £25...but if food is £10 per head...then the hire of disco/commnuity centre...

bythepowerofgreyskull Mon 18-Aug-08 19:57:41

Ally I would have happily said that £20-30 gift

feedmenow Mon 18-Aug-08 20:02:46

Ally, I get what you're doing with the mental calculations but you shouldn't have to. I very much doubt they'll have invited you to make a profit! More likely they've invited you because they want you there.

I reckon that if couples wanted to end up not out of pocket they'd just be better off going to their local Register office!

Anyway, having been to a few evening do's myself this year I'd say £25 is fine. It is, after all, the thought that counts.

falcon Mon 18-Aug-08 20:03:14

I'll keep my mouth shut on the subject of asking for cash, but you do not need to cover the cost of your meal/venue hire etc, you are their guest.

firsttimemama Mon 18-Aug-08 20:13:36


Ally90 Mon 18-Aug-08 20:15:24

I'll go with £25...and it is a registry wedding, family only then friends and family to community centre.

Appriciate points about being a guest and being invited for our company

She is a good friend and has looked after my dd (the only person who has!) so want to get it right...but not over the top

Thanks for advice!

Ally90 Mon 18-Aug-08 20:15:51

Thanks Mama!

somersetmum Mon 18-Aug-08 20:20:42

OK, think of it like this:
How many people are going?

100 couples giving £25 per couple = £2500. That will pay for about half of their kitchen.

150 couples giving £30 = £4500.

100 couples giving £50 per couple = £5000. Wow!

So, your gift may appear quite small but would be a contribution to a very generous wedding gift imo.

Ally90 Tue 19-Aug-08 20:06:37

Thanks...didn't think of it that way

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