Sorry....not exactly the snappiest thread title is it?!
Here's some background. My DB was doing a full time college course back in 2002, something to do with sound engineering. He needed certain equipment for a home studio so I agreed to lend him £4000 as he was up to his eyes credit wise. The agreement was that he would pay back £200 per month.
Unfortunately, the repayments never started properly (he was going to set up a monthly standing order but this didn't materialise). He made a one off payment of £250 but that was all. At the same time I was in the process of moving me and my 2 DSs to a new area to live with DH (who I'd met in 2001)so things were pretty chaotic and it took me a couple of months to realise that we'd had no payments. After a few more months of not receiving anything I stopped asking, thinking he would start repaying once he was in a position to do so.
Moving on to 2005 (still with me?!), DH and my financial position was pretty dire as DH had been out of work for 18 months, horrendous mortgage etc and the debts had piled up so I broached the subject with DB. He was very defensive but managed to pay us £750 straight away from another loan he had taken out and then offered to pay £50 per month. These payments never happened either - "the standing order must have gone wrong", etc etc.
DH and I ended up taking out an IVA as we were in such a state financially. DB is the only person who knows about this (apart from you MNers!)but still, even after I'd told him about the IVA there was still no offer from him as he said he was "always so skint".
Don't get me wrong, I love my DB - he's a great guy and I don't want to fall out with him over money. However, £3000 would make a huge difference to us at the moment. DB is working and DJs at the weekends as well. He borrowed a considerable amount from his dad and has paid that back faithfully so it makes me feel a bit of a mug that he hasn't done the same with me. I know I shouldn't have left this for so long but I really don't know how to approach it again.........I always end up feeling so guilty that I've had to ask him again and then angry which doesn't help matters at all.
Any ideas or advice would be gratefully received. Thanks.
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I lent my brother £4000 6 years ago.....he still owes just over £3000 - how do I move this forward without falling out with him?
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misspiggy · 15/08/2008 18:32
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