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Wedding cash - how much do people usually give?

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Podrick Sat 02-Aug-08 15:14:10

Out of curiosity, what would you say is a normal amount to give in cash/vouchers at a wedding for:

a) a close friend
b) a not so close friend/ colleague
c) if you have only been invited to the evening reception?!!

Mostly I have not much left after paying for accommodation/travel/outfits but I would hate to seem miserly!

Mung Sat 02-Aug-08 15:16:36

I am going to a wedding tonight and the wedding list just asks for B&Q vouchers. I am going empty handed. I refuse to give cash too.

edam Sat 02-Aug-08 15:18:56

I don't give cash, ever. Very rude of the couple to ask, unless it's a Greek wedding or something.

Went to the wedding of someone who had asked for money recently and bought them a big photo of their family that they wanted but couldn't afford to buy and have framed instead.

Lauriefairycake Sat 02-Aug-08 15:21:21

1. £50

2. £30

3. £30

as that is usually what I can afford - don't give more than you can afford even if it's £10

TillyScoutsmum Sat 02-Aug-08 15:23:47

Best friend's - we gave £100 but close friends (but not best best mates) would probably be £50

2. £30

3. £20 (or a bottle of fizz)

Podrick Sat 02-Aug-08 19:48:16

Any more answers to this one?

DiscoDizzy Sat 02-Aug-08 19:49:38


StealthPolarBear Sat 02-Aug-08 19:49:55

Depends on your circumstances but my amounts would be:

a) a close friend - £35ish
b) a not so close friend/ colleague - £25ish
c) if you have only been invited to the evening reception?!! Ahhh! Think I'd get a bottle of champagne and spend about £20

nickytwotimes Sat 02-Aug-08 19:52:04

I would SPEND or give:
c)would try to avoid going, lol!

However, you should give what is affordable and what seems right to you.
A friend worth their salt won't give a monkey's!

expatinscotland Sat 02-Aug-08 19:52:11

a) none
b) none
c) none

I refuse to give cash.

PerkinWarbeck Sat 02-Aug-08 19:54:27

a) £100 but I only have a few super-close friends grin
b) £50
c) £25

although we usually choose to give vouchers for the shop wherever the list is at, I do feel funny about being asked for cash.

I've just been asked this for the first time. Been pondering on why I feel uncomfortble giving £25 cash rather than the £25 John Lewis vouchers I would happily give hmm....

expatinscotland Sat 02-Aug-08 19:54:35

What is with inviting people to only the evening reception?

Is it a space thing, meaning, lack of space in the church/venue where the ceremony is taking place?

I had never heard of this except among the English.

meemar Sat 02-Aug-08 20:06:05

expat - evening only invites are usually for people you want to have at your wedding but can't invite to the main meal due to financial/space restraints.

You might be able to fit them in the church/ceremony venue but it's impossible to say come to the church and the evening party, but not the middle bit iyswim.

expatinscotland Sat 02-Aug-08 20:07:44

wouldn't a person just invite fewer people overall then, if they can't afford to invite them to the meal?


i'm foreign and mostly used to large Latin American weddings, so forgive me, but i find that shockingly rude, unfortunately.

themildmanneredjanitor Sat 02-Aug-08 20:08:20

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Haylstones Sat 02-Aug-08 20:08:59

a. 50
b. 30
c. 20

expatinscotland Sat 02-Aug-08 20:09:08

k, i see, mmj.

hmm, that is indeed very different.

themildmanneredjanitor Sat 02-Aug-08 20:10:20

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llareggub Sat 02-Aug-08 20:12:35

I don't give money. If asked for money I ignore it and buy a small gift instead.

We usually offer to do the invitations and photographs for close friends, so that is worth considerably more, I think, to the happy couple. Obviously they don't have to take us up on the offer!

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