Make me feel better - whingy teenageesq post!

[Smurfgirl]

So its 11.45pm on a SATURDAY and i am feeling very whingy about my complete lack of life.

Actually big lie, have life, have job, nearly have degree. But don't have man. Now I know that this is not really that important, but all my friends have one and it bugs me. Very shallow yes. Does not help that all friends are beautiful stick insects, and I am just well medium.

I am 20 now and beginning to wonder if actually I will ever find anyone. I am in social situations a lot where I meet men (boys really we are all only 20!), I go out blah blah. But nobody ever looks at me. I am not hideously ugly honest, I think I am pretty nice as a person. But I do wonder why I have not had a serious boyfriend since I was like 15!

I am not looking for marriage, but really a relationship, or just some interest would be quite nice. I had a thingy with my housemate but I think thats only because I was there kwim?

I know this is so teenage angst and I have all the time on the world. But why ME! Please give me some words of wisdom!

(and am childfree BTW so they would not be an issue)

[sparklymieow]

so you don't have kids?? why aren't you out enjoying youself then?? Enjoy your freedom!! I went out last week ad throughly enjoyed it, shame I can't do it all the time, but I have 3 kids to think about, and I am only 26!!

[open]

Hate to say it, and I'm sure you must have heard it before - but there's plenty of time. I got married at 30, having thought I'd found 'the one' several times before that. Basically, I wasted 10 years of my life looking for someone.

Get out there, do something interesting with your life for you. You'll then have the opportunity of meeting other people who have the same interests as you. If that leads to something, great. If it doesn't, you won't have wasted your time.

I married a fantastic man and love my kids, but still wish I'd spent my twenties doing something I had a passion about. (Not men!)

[Smurfgirl]

Oh yeah I do get out there and club hardcore stylee the Daily Mail would be horrified I am in tonight because I worked until 10 and tend to go out on weekdays.

I do all the exciting stuff honest. I just want someone to share that with.

OMG SO MUCH ANGST.

[spod]

so if you are child free, why do u use mumsnet? not that you arent completely welcome, you are of course... its just not an abvious forum for a young free, single, no-responsibilities girl! i had a friend in school like you... trns out that men bit intimidated by her niceness and confidence... could that be the same for you?

[Smurfgirl]

Oh thought I was pregnant a while ago and mumsnet popped up after a google search...obv was not. Lurked forever, now shamelessly posting but will bugger off if not wanted.

Am not saying ANYYYYYTHING about children though I know how annoying it is when childfree people comment

[spod]

no, no, no, completely welcome!!!!! really you are... just wondered why u use mumsnet! and comment away! just cos u aint got kids dont mean u dont know anything! u are objective! and sometimes its useful to have the opinion of someone who aint sleep deprived! very welcome!

[Smurfgirl]

Oh and also nice to speak to people who are not 20 and consumed with worry about their degrees/boyfriends/argument with housemates.

Am however sleep deprived.

[spod]

am probably crap person to offer advice... was married at 20!

[Smurfgirl]

Nooooooo. Actually my current plan is married at 30, maybe I just want sex hmmm.

Going to bed now or else I will not get up in the morning and have a bathroom to disinfect (see am not carefree or cool).

[spod]

its a sin to disinfect bathrooms on a sunday!