nearly non-existed sex life !

[biglips]

i had baba 4 months ago and i cant be arse !! only had it 3 times, but i think about it all the time but my body is not doing anything !!! anyone else the same?

[biglips]

but tonite DP said to me "you dont want it anymore and wont let me near ya" - oops!

[Evesmama]

21 months on and still can't be arsed

[biglips]

i still fancy the pants of DP and i love him to bits but there is no 'get up and get on with it!' motivation

[WestCountryLass]

Can't be arsed either and my baby is nearly 7 months, haven't been bothered since I had DS 3 years ago

I have no family round or any help with the kids and DH is self employed and works long hours and I jsut want to be left alone in a darkened room by the time they are in bed.

3 times is good if you ask me!

[crazy]

been 14 mths for me, finding I'm in the mood for it, about once a month......don't worry biglips, they soon give up asking!!!!!

[crazy]

me and my dh didnt do it until 5 months after, so your doing well biglips!

[lilsmum]

yep i can never be arsed...by the time i have got some peace and dd(12mth) is asleep i am really not in the mood!!! and to think i was that bad before dd that dp would turn me down (too tired etc!!) we have been decussing no 2 and i am sure the main reason he wants to go for it because its guaranteed sex lol

[biglips]

..... i cant get turned on and most of the time DP be moaning (in a nice way) and say to me ill see you in bed later .... 1 in the morning i come up as baba just fallen asleep and DP is snoring - cant win!!!!

[crazy]

just like to correct my message...14 months and still can't be a**ed, not 14 mths and not done it!

[charleypops]

I think the less you do it, the more you get out of the habit, and the less you want to do it. In my experience, doing nothing whilst waiting passively to suddenly feel like it just won't work.

To me though, (not that I've had one yet), 4 months after having a new baby doesn't seem that long - I think 3 times is good going too!

[biglips]

crazey - i was just gonna say --- 14 months !!! i be desperate

[crazy]

me and dh are just not in sync, trying to find a time when your both up for it is so hard

[NameChangingMancMidlander]

it took us ages to get back into the swing of things. dh was always up for it buut my hormones went completely haywire for a good 2 years post dd. things have picked up in the last few months, i seem to have rediscovered my libido which has led to all round !

still not back to how things were, but i doubt things will ever be as 'experimental' as they were due to the fact that we just don't have the time these days.

try not to panic about it, the more pressure you pile on, the less inclined you'll be to get down and dirty

[biglips]

crazy !! - i had to double read that again then, as i thought it said summat else !

[crazy]

can't imagine what!! you'll have to bear with me tired and a little hungover!

[biglips]

i thought it said "trying to find a time when your both up so hard" as i just quick read it and then i read it again and i thought oh right!

[Joolstoo]

I don't think an attitude like 'get up and get on with it!' is helping!

I was the same though - one thing you can be certain of - you're not alone

[Joolstoo]

I'm truly amazed at this comment!

"my problem is that I am terrified of getting pregnant by accident without noticing it"

[Joolstoo]

sorry kama - I was being flip - I'm in a funny mood - I was more thinking how would you not notice a man getting frisky iykwim!