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Surrogacy, could you do it?

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singsong Mon 17-Jan-05 13:23:55

Only thinking about this because have just been watching home and Away on TV and there is a surrogacy story at present. Just got me thinking about real life surrogacy, I think it is such a wonderful thing to do for someone but I know I wouldn’t do it myself because I’d find it too hard.

RTKangaMummy Mon 17-Jan-05 13:28:54

One of my friends was infertile after years and yaears of IVF etc was given a surragote daughter from Mrs X.

She then had 3 miracle children by herself

She then went on to be a suragate mum and give another baby away to a childless couple.

So she was at both ends of the story.

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lowcalCOD Mon 17-Jan-05 13:30:28

no way
coudlnt stand it if htey made a hash o f parenting

suzywong Mon 17-Jan-05 13:31:24


littlemissbossy Mon 17-Jan-05 13:32:30


colditzmum Mon 17-Jan-05 13:35:55

NO. I would scream the place down if anyone withb any intention of taking a baby that I had given birth to actually touched it. IYSWIM

suzywong Mon 17-Jan-05 13:36:49

well put colditzmum

Beansmum Mon 17-Jan-05 13:38:48

I couldn't do it, I loved ds even before he was born and there is no way I could have given him away to anyone. I really admire anyone who does it though, it must be so hard.

nutcracker Mon 17-Jan-05 13:38:53

Nope i couldn't.

dot1 Mon 17-Jan-05 13:40:57

no - and I couldn't bring myself to donate eggs either, which I know seems really silly. Dp has often said she could and would donate eggs - not sure if she could be a surrogate though - must ask her!

singsong Tue 18-Jan-05 14:06:37

That's a nice story RTKangaMummy . I'm sure it works out nice like that for many who use surrogacy, just know I wouldn't be able to do it. Scared I wouldn't hand baby over in the end.

NameChangingMancMidlander Tue 18-Jan-05 14:08:39

I don't know for sure, but I'd never say never.

spacedonkey Tue 18-Jan-05 14:08:45

For years I have wondered about doing this for my sister who has not been able to have children (and she is now in her mid 40s and has given up). I've never actually spoken to her about it because I'm not sure I could do it tbh. But it still plays on my mind as a possibility.

fisil Tue 18-Jan-05 14:09:17

no - more pregnancy than necessary? no thanks!

lockets Tue 18-Jan-05 14:10:15

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BadHair Tue 18-Jan-05 14:22:15

Yes, well probably, but only for a very close friend or relative, not for strangers or for money.

amynnixmum Tue 18-Jan-05 14:41:18

I would do it for either of my sisters. My BIL's girlfriend had hysterectomy when she was 22. She has a boy from her first marriage and BIL also has a son. They both have shared residency with their ex's so the children only live with them part-time. Would consider doing it for them. Couldn't do it for anyone else though.

aloha Tue 18-Jan-05 14:44:34

God no. Can't imagine anything worse.

KateandtheGirls Tue 18-Jan-05 14:47:56

Well I didn't enjoy being pregnant and I hated childbirth, so I would have to say no. On the other hand if either of my sisters (who aren't yet at the stage of thinking about having children) were unable to conceive and wanted me to do it I would probably consider it.

FineFigureFio Tue 18-Jan-05 14:49:52

Not for a stranger.

Incidentally my sister asked me if she had reached the stage of marrying if I would have a child for her. At the time i said 'no, I dont think so" but tbh I think I would have done if she had been settled etc and dh approved

spacedonkey Tue 18-Jan-05 14:51:03

If my sister asked me to do it, then I think I would. But she would never dream of asking!

bundle Tue 18-Jan-05 14:51:59

i was completely in awe of someone i once met who'd donated eggs, that's a tough enough thing to do!

pinkdiamond Tue 18-Jan-05 15:08:46

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aloha Tue 18-Jan-05 15:10:37

Don't have a sister but would never donate eggs. they might end up in a 67-year-old Romanian! Anyway my eggs = my child in my view.

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